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To not want to give Dmil baby clothes

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Snoreborewhoreee Tue 07-Nov-17 20:39:28

So Im a very sentimental person and a bit of a hoarder I keep all my babies clothes incase I have another one (which has happened twice lol) and to keep for a memory blanket if I don't have any more.. My mil always asks for some whenever I post old photos of them cos she wants some for a memory blanket for herself? But if I'm honest and this is going to sound selfish I don't want to give any away.. I'm not going to lie she has bought items for them to wear (no idea which ones now but a couple were precious newborn outfit/hat) so I guess that's why I'm asking the aibu question..

SleepingStandingUp Tue 07-Nov-17 20:40:52

Tbh I think her wanting a memory blanket .De of your kids clothes is a bit odd so Bo, yanbu

MinervaSaidThar Tue 07-Nov-17 20:42:44

You could surely give her a couple you don't like that much?

Or will there be a drip feed?

MyKingdomForBrie Tue 07-Nov-17 20:43:33

Could you not when you make your memory blanket give her the spare material? As far as I’m aware these blankets only use a piece of each item of clothing? So she can make herself a blanket too.

You really can’t underestimate the love many people have for their grandchildren, the clothes could easily be precious to her too.

Sirzy Tue 07-Nov-17 20:44:19

Surely it would be a seriously big blanket if you used all of the clothes?

What harm would sending a couple of less loved items?

ILoveMillhousesDad Tue 07-Nov-17 20:44:54

You want to keep every single piece of clothing your babies have ever worn?

What skin is it off your nose to give her a few old bits? You don't have to give her clothing you feel sentimental about, but why you would give her none seems a bit mean.

If it makes her happy as their grandma, then what's the big deal?

Lelloteddy Tue 07-Nov-17 20:45:57

YABU. Heaven forbid your MIL also has sentimental attachment to some of the clothes she bought for a much loved grandchild.

Burn the bitch.

BertramTheWalrus Tue 07-Nov-17 20:46:59

You must have loads of baby clothes, I can't see why you can't give her a few items that aren't your favourites! Sounds like she would be able to appreciate them. As a pp said, don't underestimate the love some grandparents feel for their grandchildren.

RibenaMonsoon Tue 07-Nov-17 20:47:27

It's your choice. I'd give her a couple of bits you don't like.
Be honest and say that's all you can spare as you've already put some aside for a memory blanket yourself.

Italiangreyhound Tue 07-Nov-17 20:47:55

I think if you can't bear to part with any of your baby's clothes you may have a hoarding problem. I think I'd want to try and part with a few.

You also sound like you don't like your MIL. Remember either of your babies could make you a MIL I'm the next two to three decades. How would you feel of your new DIL or SIL won't part with any baby clothes even if you bought them.

zebedebe Tue 07-Nov-17 20:49:25

Surely you have a few items of clothing that you don’t really love, give her those. Hoarding to this extent isn’t healthy.

KarmaStar Tue 07-Nov-17 20:51:23

It would be nice for her to be able to make her own memory blanket if you have some spare.

Snoreborewhoreee Tue 07-Nov-17 20:52:31

I like my mil very much actually, I just at this moment don't really want to part with any but maybe the answers are right and I could find some less loved items.. I just think it's strange for her to want a memory blanket, when I look through the clothes I have actual memories of them in them

Bambamber Tue 07-Nov-17 20:54:35


If you've kept all the clothes I'm sure you can spare a few bits and pieces

QuantamBaby Tue 07-Nov-17 20:58:24

Well maybe your MIL also has actual memories of her grandchildren in the clothes! You don’t have a monopoly on memories...

pictish Tue 07-Nov-17 21:07:02

Err yeah I think you are being unreasonable actually. Bit mad to insist on keeping everything and guarding it jealously. Give her a couple of items fgs.

Quartz2208 Tue 07-Nov-17 21:08:47

wanting a memory blanket is less strange than keeping all the baby clothes and not wanting to part with any

pictish Tue 07-Nov-17 21:09:12

I agree Quartz.

HolyShet Tue 07-Nov-17 21:10:40

YANBU if you're not ready to get rid of them yet

YABU not to let your MIL have a few bits or parts of bits - no idea why it is weird for her to make a quilt - plus it will likely get given to your kids at some point - nice to have 2 of them around, surely?

wobblywonderwoman Tue 07-Nov-17 21:10:52

If you like her - let her have some of them

lizabes Tue 07-Nov-17 21:12:30

I think people are being a bit mean.

There’s nothing wrong with your mil wanting some of them but there’s nothing wrong with you wanting to keeps them either, especially if you have plans for them if you don’t have more kids.

MinervaSaidThar Tue 07-Nov-17 21:14:56

Lizabes, i don't think people have been mean to OP. Just because people disagree doesn't mean they aremean,

PandorasXbox Tue 07-Nov-17 21:15:27

Surely she could have ONE baby cardigan or something?

BlueThesaurusRex Tue 07-Nov-17 21:17:47

You don’t have to let go of anything now but in the future I think it would be a bit mean not to let her have any!

Ps if anyone ever doubts the strength of love of a grandparent then watch the documentary ‘Dear Zachary’

ToadsforJustice Tue 07-Nov-17 21:20:49

Why does she want to make a memory blanket with your babies things? I don’t understand. confused

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