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AIBU to ask you to write a snarky reply for me?

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Phryne Tue 07-Nov-17 20:16:17

My partner's father texted me the following today: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Grandma and Grandad

It is my birthday. It is not my child's birthday. It is not any of their other grandchildren's birthdays. They don't even like me and have made it clear by saying 'you are not part of our family' out loud, to my face.

I am very tempted to send a snarky reply but (a) I shouldn't rock the boat as we have news to give them at the weekend they won't like and - much much more importantly - (b) I can't think of anything good. grin All I've got is:
'I didn't know you were a medium, X. Could you please tell nan and granddad thanks and that we did spend the money on beer, as they'd have wanted' (my nan and granddad are dead and I miss them, X is a teetotaler...)

(Light hearted in case that isn't obvious!)

Ellendegeneres Tue 07-Nov-17 20:17:39

Send that!

Brightredpencil Tue 07-Nov-17 20:18:26

It will annoy them much more to get no reply whatsoever. They'll never know if you saw it then or what your reaction was.

MidiMitch Tue 07-Nov-17 20:19:17

AIBU to ask what the news is? (Tell me to mind my own business!!!)

Pancakeflipper Tue 07-Nov-17 20:19:23

I'd just send the old MN faithful "Are you on glue?"

SaucyJack Tue 07-Nov-17 20:20:31


Is this really the funnest way to spend your birthday? There's pictures of Tom Hardy naked out there for the googling.

Send back a quick "thanks", and don't waste any more headspace on them.

JuniUmiZoomi Tue 07-Nov-17 20:22:39

Pah, just ignore them. If it will wind them up in future call them Grandma/Grandad to their faces.

formerbabe Tue 07-Nov-17 20:26:38

I'd send back...

"Thanks...luv u"


MinervaSaidThar Tue 07-Nov-17 20:27:10

Yeah they've given you a license to call them GM and GD in future!

EastMeetsWestBay Tue 07-Nov-17 20:35:18

New phone, who’s this?

Phryne Tue 07-Nov-17 20:36:21

I like "are you on glue?" grin short and simple

No reply won't bother them. They think this is normal

The news is that I'm pregnant again with a much wanted baby smile

I do actually enjoy fantasising about saying sarky things to them when it's funny as it's a change from actually being furious

iMatter Tue 07-Nov-17 20:39:04

Sounds to me like they know you are pregnant and this is their p/a way of letting you know.

missymayhemsmum Tue 07-Nov-17 20:45:37

Ok, well I'm a wilful optimist here. The grandparents of your unborn child who have up until now been horrible to you have finally accepted you and are wishing you happy birthday.

Thank you and move on. Hope you had a good birthday.

AlternativeTentacle Tue 07-Nov-17 20:46:53

'Who is this?' always works for me. smile

hareagain Tue 07-Nov-17 20:50:47

Meh, bit presumptuous but appears it could be a genuine gesture...

Sunisshining12 Tue 07-Nov-17 20:52:00

i feel a bit sorry for your kids, sounds a bit of a mess if this is how you & your kids grandparents are with one another

ZigZagIntoTheBlue Tue 07-Nov-17 20:52:24

Congratulations on your pregnancy flowers

GetYourRosariesOffMyOvaries Tue 07-Nov-17 20:52:58

I love your reply!!!

pret Tue 07-Nov-17 20:53:05

Fuck you very much x

FrenchDucksSayCoinCoin Tue 07-Nov-17 20:53:11

If I received that I would wonder if my partner had told them they were going to be grandparents.

midnightmisssuki Tue 07-Nov-17 20:53:24

‘Sorry - deleted this number, who is this again?’


Dozer Tue 07-Nov-17 20:56:14


Agree with PPs that no reply probably best.

iMatter Tue 07-Nov-17 20:58:32

They definitely know.

And they are taunting you with it.

Can you see your way to building some bridges before your baby arrives?

Hohofortherobbers Tue 07-Nov-17 21:01:16

Why won't they like that you're pregnant? Sorry for missing the point

caffelatte100 Tue 07-Nov-17 21:03:11

Yes, I think they know as well. But it's a friendly and small gesture. Sounds like a weird relationship. I wouldn't send your reply, it too is weird...

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