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Are my dc too old to share a bed?

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NaiceToMeetYou Tue 07-Nov-17 12:29:09

Dc are 7 and almost 5. They've never been good sleepers, ds1 only started sleeping through after starting reception and ds2 was still coming into us every night until a few months ago when they asked could they share.
They both sleep from 8pm til 7am now with no waking, it's bliss! My dm however told them at the weekend they're too old to share and should be in their own beds now.

Aibu letting them so that we all get a good night's sleep?

brasty Tue 07-Nov-17 12:30:12

I think it is fine. More natural really for humans not to sleep alone.

Keepingupwiththejonesys Tue 07-Nov-17 12:30:24

If they're happy to share a bed then I see no issue whatsoever. My two girls (5&3) sometimes share a bed, other times they don't.

NaiceToMeetYou Tue 07-Nov-17 12:31:15

Ds1 actually asked why can mummy and daddy share but not them grin

Theresamayscough Tue 07-Nov-17 12:32:54

We had bunk beds for our boys until they were 8/9 and our girls until they were 9/10.

It worked great for us. Tell your dm to back off. Sleep is the holy grail. grin

Back in the day as a 70s kid I had my own room wen I moved out aged 18 and dss 3 sisters shared a room until each left home aged 18 and beyond.

It’s fine

MagicMoneyTree Tue 07-Nov-17 12:34:21

Why would you separate them if they’re both happy? They’ll soon let you know if they’re not! Your DM needs to keep her beak out.

Glumglowworm Tue 07-Nov-17 12:42:53

They're happy and sleeping well, leave them to it.

They will naturally want more space and privacy as they get older, which is fine. But if they're both happy then why disturb something that works?

Moo678 Tue 07-Nov-17 13:03:57

I remember in high school there were two sisters who still shared a bed at around 16 and 14. If your kids are happy and sleeping well then I don't see the issue. Ours often have to share on holiday and it's a nightmare becuase they are not even used to being in the same room so they get up to all sorts of nonsense. I think it's sweet that yours want to sleep together.

BrandNewHouse Tue 07-Nov-17 13:06:22

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2014newme Tue 07-Nov-17 13:06:24

I'd let them have their own beds

NannyR Tue 07-Nov-17 13:07:41

Sharing beds has been the norm throughout history and still is the norm in many places around the world. As long as they are both happy with the arrangement, I can't see anything wrong with it.

oblada Tue 07-Nov-17 13:12:04

how can they be too old to share? its perfectly natural for humans to bedshare/room share nothing wrong with that smile i would look at changing things only if you encountered a pb such as them being unable to sleep apart (sleepover etc). but just because they bed share doesnt mean they cant be absolutely fine alone in the right circumstances!

NaiceToMeetYou Tue 07-Nov-17 13:12:45

2014 they do have their own beds but choose to share.

MaverickSnoopy Tue 07-Nov-17 13:23:59

My Dsis and I shared for a period when we had a long term house guest. We were 11 and 6 at the time. It was fine but we did bicker sometimes. So long as they're getting on i don't see a problem.

Sarahjconnor Tue 07-Nov-17 13:25:27

The only issue is if they have sleep overs/school trips etc they may well not sleep. I shared with various siblings (not enough beds!) until I left home and have never been able to sleep alone. The first year at uni until I met DH was hell.

ConciseandNice Tue 07-Nov-17 13:26:22

It's perfectly natural. I don't think any other great apes slink off to sleep alone at night. They all sleep together and so should we as long as it's wanted by all involved.

blackteasplease Tue 07-Nov-17 13:29:13

Of course they can share! As long as they are happy it's fine.

They are same sex anyway so I don't see why you would need to separate any time before they wanted you to.

CrocusEater Tue 07-Nov-17 13:34:19

Sounds fine to me. My two older brothers slept in the same bed till they were much older. Too old, in fact, but there wasn't much else to be done. We only had two bedrooms with a family of six. There was no room to put enough beds for us all to have our own.
That was many years ago though, so attitudes may have changed.

NaiceToMeetYou Tue 07-Nov-17 13:43:47

Glad I'm not BU. They're really close, best friends and do everything together so we're lucky really. Never had a problem with them bickering in bed smile

Lemonnaise Tue 07-Nov-17 13:51:40

confused what exactly is your mother's problem? I don't see an issue with this at all.

maddiemookins16mum Tue 07-Nov-17 14:04:10

Totally fine, my sister and I shared until we were about 8 and 9.

InsomniacAnonymous Tue 07-Nov-17 14:06:28

What is your mum's objection to them sharing if they're both happy about it?

Myheartbelongsto Tue 07-Nov-17 14:08:59

As they're the same sex I'd say OK but if different sexes then absolutely not.

Mustang27 Tue 07-Nov-17 14:12:28

What @Myheartbelongsto that’s utter crap me and my younger brothers often read and fell asleep in our own bed 3yr and 9yr age gap we are all pretty well rounded adults. I honestly can’t see what your issue is? I don’t think I even want to know.

EmmalinaC Tue 07-Nov-17 14:17:52

My DDs are 8 and 11. They share a room and have their own beds but much prefer to sleep in the same bed - either DD1's single bed, or the double bed in the spare room. Works for us!

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