I’m a SAHM to 2 ds,my dh works long hours and we are have the odd treat but we do have a budget to stick to.A friend of mine has a ds slightly older than mine and we don’t see much of each other these days.
In previous years we have bought a gift for my friends son mainly because she buys for our two.I was going to just buy a selection box for her ds this year as both me and dh have large families and we struggle to buy for everyone at Xmas.
I got a message from her asking what would my ds like for Xmas,she mentioned lego and another expensive toy.Im now in a panic as I feel like we will then have to reciprocate.
AIBU to say we should just buy selection boxes this year?Shes a bit of a one upper and dh would probably feel out of pride we should stretch ourselves but I think we should stick to budget.
I did this with my friend last month, she was asking what the kids wanted for Christmas & I just said to her "let's not get for the kids anymore, they get so much as we both have large families" also one of mine & both of hers all have winter birthdays so it's too much in a short space of time. That was my last friend I still bought the kids Christmas presents & it's such a relief to cross two off the list! She really didn't seem bothered at all
If your dh pride insists he buys these children gifts, don't tell him about your reply to her. Just suggest to her you knock the gifts on the head. I had a message from a friend who had lost her job suggesting we stop with Xmas presents I was relieved!