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So angry with immoral nasty dirty EX SIL

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Plentyapollo Mon 06-Nov-17 21:50:34

Ex (9 years ago) SIL encourages her 20 year old son to be physically and verbally spiteful to his step brother with autism & my son without. Calls them retards is purposefully hurting them by 'accident'.
She this week has followed my 81 year old MIL around the local town begging her for money and not paid it back... this is the third time this has happened in three weeks!!!
She still owes us £510, she has been evicted from her rented house after the landlord whom she was having sex with for years has now caught her shagging both of his married brothers... the best of this is that the landlord and his brothers have a sister that is married to her brother... I couldn't make this up.
Her son has stolen from my house my dh feels sorry for him as he hasnt had the most stable of upbringings!!! She left My BIL when son was 5 to run off with landlord thinking he would leave his wife for her.
After my 13 ds complained that they called him a spoilt little bastard and he violently twisted his fingers causing bruising last visit... I have banned them from our home.
Want to do something rash about her taking advantage of my lovely MILs vulnerability...I'm so angry

MistyMinge Mon 06-Nov-17 21:54:25

Do you need to have anything to do with them? I'd cut her and her son out of my life.

BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried Mon 06-Nov-17 21:55:40

It’s Jeremy Kyle you’re after.

Plentyapollo Mon 06-Nov-17 22:15:29

Can & have cut her out... would like to cut her off at the knees but her parasitic attention has just turned towards my MIL.
Would love to have the courage to intimidate her family in the way she's doing to MIL and tell them what her spiteful jealous son is doing to my 9 year old nephew. Her brother and mother are Church deacons!!!

rollingonariver Mon 06-Nov-17 22:15:36

Cut them out. There’s no reason to have any of them in your life.
Tell her that next time she bothers your mother you will phone the police.

RedBullBlood Mon 06-Nov-17 22:20:03

The op's MIL must be the SIL's mother, then, right?

Plentyapollo Mon 06-Nov-17 22:23:47

All family including my husband have walked on eggshells around her for years firstly because she would with hold her son from seeing his dad if anyone dared speak up to her and now because she has no shame... she has been known to scream and ball anyone out anywhere she pleases... I just want to permanently shut her and her son up, and out them public all for the way they have behaved AND for even daring to put his hands on my son

Plentyapollo Mon 06-Nov-17 22:25:47

No the ops MIL is the ex SIL ex MIL!!!

RedBullBlood Mon 06-Nov-17 22:48:26

I have form for not understanding in laws'!
If the woman is op's SIL, then SIL must be op's brother's wife, or op's husband's sister?
So op's MIL is either her brother's mother (which of course makes her the op's Mum) or SIL's mum?
Help me.

RedBullBlood Mon 06-Nov-17 22:49:26

Jeez, I even typed it out wrong. Ignore me, please.

GardenGeek Mon 06-Nov-17 22:54:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Kissmycousinkate Mon 06-Nov-17 22:56:34

Husbands brother was married to ex sill and mil is husbands and Bil mom.....I think

Coastalcommand Mon 06-Nov-17 22:58:05

What's the AIBU here?

Sashkin Mon 06-Nov-17 22:58:07

Redbull, it’s her husband's brother’s ex-wife.

Two brothers. Both married. This is one wife talking about the other brother’s ex-wife.

overnightangel Mon 06-Nov-17 22:59:16

Jeremy Kyle of if you’ve any sense , if there’s been stealing, go to the police

RedBullBlood Mon 06-Nov-17 23:02:12

Got it. blush
I think it's because I don't think of my BIL's wife (my husband's brother's wife!) as my SIL. She's just my BIL's wife.

Jux Mon 06-Nov-17 23:11:02

Can you report her for something? Hurting your son, harrassing mil, child cruelty to your nephew?

ohtheholidays Mon 06-Nov-17 23:11:58

I'd be reporting her and her son to the Police for the abuse of the children and for what they've been calling a child that is disabled sick bastards the pair of them.

Please report them to SS as well for the sake of the child they're abusing!

AcrossthePond55 Mon 06-Nov-17 23:14:38

If this is your husband's brother's ex-wife, then the MiL in question is also your MiL? You do refer to her in your OP as 'my' MiL.

So what are your husband and brother doing to defend their mother?

QueenFlippyNips Mon 06-Nov-17 23:26:20

Oh christ on a bike that sounds horrendous Plentyapollo, i totally know how you feel thought! I have a crazy toxic cousin who's been caught on cctv shagging in a shop carpark on a night out (see? All families are a bit bonkers grin ) and is generally not a great person.

I'm trying to cut her out of my life now but my dm is still in contact with her partly because she had a tough childhood and so my dm feels sorry for her, people like these rely on people's pity. I wish my dm would consider going nc too, but she won't, so I just clearly explained why I don't want anything more to do with this cousin and asked my mum not to bring her up around me etc. Like yourself, I really don't want anyone bringing unnecessary drama into my life so the best thing to do is totally detach and disengage yourself from that person, remember that they're nothing to you so anymore and nothing can't hurt or annoy you!

Goodluck! smile flowers

Plentyapollo Tue 07-Nov-17 18:12:18

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Plentyapollo Tue 07-Nov-17 18:25:25

husband and brother in law... not giving them the choice to bury their heads this time... to be fair the son/nephew is sly beyond belief and up until now the hurt and name calling inflicted has always been accepted as 'in fun and accidental' both had their eyes opened to son/nephew and as for EX SIL my husband is never around her for 9 years. We found out she was being evicted when they had no where to live and asked if they could rent out our flat short term... she turned it into a blood y knocking shop with the brothers coming and going at all times of day and night...then a fight broke out when one arrived as another leaving and one of the wives found out!!! police called and dh asked her to leave... 14 weeks no rent. As I said before you couldn't write this

Plentyapollo Tue 07-Nov-17 19:00:34

You couldn't make it up is what I meant to say... and the AIBU is want her exposed publically for her actions

abbsisspartacus Tue 07-Nov-17 19:05:03

You have named them in your post

twattymctwatterson Tue 07-Nov-17 19:11:46

Slut? hmm

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