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Saying ‘sorry’ before something you’re not sorry about

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Flowerbot Mon 06-Nov-17 21:42:28

E.g: “Sorry, but I think you’re an absolute cunt”

Surely it’s the equivalent of saying “I’m not being funny, but”

Why do people do it? If you mean it, say it like you mean it!

snash12 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:45:50

I don’t get that either!

Like people who say “I’m just a really honest person I have to say things as I see them” - shortly after personally insulting someone!

WhatwouldAryado Mon 06-Nov-17 21:46:15

Of course. Up there with "I don't want to sound funny/ rude/ racist "
Of course they do. They're drawing attention to the fact that They're causing offence but will use their meaningless phrase as a claim that They're not a dick. But they are. Handy though. A quick conversational short cut when dissing people out!

WhatwouldAryado Mon 06-Nov-17 21:46:45

*sussing

ALemonyPea Mon 06-Nov-17 21:47:27

Ah yes, the old “I’m not being racist but...” always gets rolled out when there has been some sort of terrorist event by people who you just know are going to give an awful racist comment.

RedBullBlood Mon 06-Nov-17 21:47:27

"No offense, but...." followed by something offensive! Thanks, Ma.

Flowerbot Mon 06-Nov-17 21:56:00

Yes exactly, you’re not allowed to be offended if someone has said “no offence, but” or informed you beforehand that they’re just really honest

Mittens1969 Mon 06-Nov-17 22:00:58

Another one is ‘With all due respect...’ when there’s definitely no respect at all. hmm

Flowerbot Mon 06-Nov-17 22:03:24

“With all due respect... you’re a cunt” like that you mean? grin

Squeegle Mon 06-Nov-17 22:05:03

With all due respect, I’m not being funny, but this is cobblers. It’s just the way we are in England. 😀

CruCru Mon 06-Nov-17 22:05:34

I always look a bit shocked and ask them why they’re sorry. They don’t like that.

Alternatively I snarl that x was very passive aggressive of them. They don’t like that either.

Lovestonap Mon 06-Nov-17 22:06:30

I was at school with someone who always started "I'm not trying to be mean but...."

Usually followed by
'no one likes you' or 'those shoes look stupid' etc.

If you're not trying to be mean then God help whoever you're talking to when you're actually trying!

Lovestonap Mon 06-Nov-17 22:07:56

When my partner says 'I'm sorry but' I always reply 'you don't sound sorry'.

IHaveBrilloHair Mon 06-Nov-17 22:09:19

I'm sorry you feel that way.
Arggggh, fuck right off.

AnonEvent Mon 06-Nov-17 22:10:59

I quite enjoy saying “I’m not being/funny racist but...” and then saying something entirely inoffensive.

I’m not being racist but, I really like salted butter.

Bluffinwithmymuffin Mon 06-Nov-17 22:12:51

"Sorry, but" is especially annoying in daily fail headlines on the women's pages.... i.e.
Sorry, but I hate other women/my boss/mums who do their children's homework/spending time with my own children/breastfeeding/having sex/not having sex/going on holiday/being kind to animals... etc. Always accompanied by photo of smug Katie Hopkins type woman with a stealth boasting smile on her face

hesterton Mon 06-Nov-17 22:13:56

Haha at the salted butter!

We get 'Not being rude but... ' followed by an appalling rude remark.

WishingOnABar Mon 06-Nov-17 22:15:36

“I’m sorry if you were offended by X”

As in, I’m not sorry it happened but sorry you are so sensitive that it offended you grin

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