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To consider stopping my son from seeing his friend?

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Sarahh2014 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:31:48

Ds age 3 goes to same nursery as a friend of mines dd I met her through Playgroup..ds came home today told me that she had hit him with a torch at nursery I rang her mother to tell her as I felt id want to know if I was in her situation ..she was apologetic and then later confirmed that she had admitted to it and made her apologise.fair enough..but only last week he told me she had spat at him which i spoke to his key worker about she also ignores him when he tries to speak to her sometimes her mother makes excuses saying she in a mood hoping I'm not sounding petty here which is why id appreciate pov before I decide what to do with regards to him spending time outside nursery with her

doodle01 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:37:46

and was it worth a call are you going to do this every time he gets a knock.
Did you do this because you could. Would you have raised the issue with the play group. If they didnt see it and tell you would it make any difference.
A 3 y/o subject to questioning may not be reliable particularly if they are under 'caution.'
He's not going to be alone with her.

Oysterbabe Mon 06-Nov-17 21:40:08

They're 3. I'd just continue to monitor the situation.

Littleredhouse Mon 06-Nov-17 21:40:12

YABU. Nursery would have mentioned it to you if it was a serious incident, and I wouldn't have called the friend about that unless it left a mark. Toddlers often hit each other and need to be guided on what's acceptable. As long as your friend doesn't let any bad behaviour go unchecked then let the kids play together.

House4 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:40:33

I wouldn't worry too much. At three they are still learning suitable behaviour. Maybe your friend could do with your support and advise too. Is your child perfect in every situation? Each time it happens at nursery speak to the teacher there, each time it happens when you are with the mum deal with it appropriately. Obv if it continues for too long or gets a lot worse you can stop outside play dates but other friends your child makes won't be perfect forever either. You may all naturally drift apart as you both make other friends. But I have to warn you .... there are many more friendship issues to come as they get older!

WhatwouldAryado Mon 06-Nov-17 21:41:11

At 3? It's not bullying is it. She hasn't learned to socialise much yet. It is not really a shocker.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Mon 06-Nov-17 21:42:57

She is 3 smile and far too young to seriously worry about just yet

Allthewaves Mon 06-Nov-17 21:43:37

You need to speak to the preschool not the mother if it's happening at preschool.

Perhaps her daughter is not as socially skilled at 3 years of age as your son. Many three yr olds blank each other.

Sarahh2014 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:44:02

I'm not saying it's shocking or bullying I didn't put that in op I just wanted some feedback on the situation that's all

Sarahh2014 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:47:29

I think I'm going to speak to nursery tomorrow thanks for your opinions smile

Sarahh2014 Mon 06-Nov-17 21:47:54

Not flowers was meant to be smile

DaisysStew Mon 06-Nov-17 21:48:35

They're 3, it happens. My DS got his face scratched by a girl at nursery a few months ago. At the time he was outraged and declared that he would never, EVER, play with her again. The next week they were best pals again.

If your sons happy to still be her friend then let him, if he's not then maybe stop play dates outside of nursery for a while, but he'll more than likely change his mind and want to be her friend again in a few weeks so don't be too hasty.

Sarahh2014 Mon 06-Nov-17 22:29:06

Thanks daisystew

CorbynsBumFlannel Mon 06-Nov-17 23:07:52

If the meet ups are generally fun then I'd continue with them. If they're generally not then I wouldn't.

Ttbb Mon 06-Nov-17 23:09:28

That's not unusual at that age. Little ones have poor impulse control anddo all kinds of things. Nothing you can do about it at nursery but if it's stressful for you you don't have to do play dates.

MammaTJ Mon 06-Nov-17 23:14:26

OP, you see these things that you used along the way in a trio... Like that. They can also be used in the singular, to indicate the end of a sentence.

See ^^

stella23 Mon 06-Nov-17 23:18:02

Can you encourage your son to make other friends, maybe you can Continue to meet up with your friend but encourage others

CorbynsBumFlannel Mon 06-Nov-17 23:29:07

Helpful MammaTJ. And actually they were mostly used in a duo!

Sarahh2014 Tue 07-Nov-17 07:27:35

Mammatj is your life that boring that you have to pick someone up on a few dots in a thread that they started? Just wanted advice on here not a grammar lesson. thanks

Quartz2208 Tue 07-Nov-17 07:55:50

You need to take a deep breath they are 3! These thing are normal figuring out how to play

How will you cope when he does it

Sarahh2014 Tue 07-Nov-17 07:58:37

I'm fine no deep breaths needed thanks smile

Quartz2208 Tue 07-Nov-17 08:06:57

Then why ask it's not a big deal at all

Sarahh2014 Tue 07-Nov-17 08:08:45

I've seen more trivial threads than this on here why read and comment?

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