I try not to be overly sensitive, but I wonder if I have let this friend think his time is more valuable than mine, and how to get the balance back? I am very accommodating to his not replying to suggestions to go out which he replies to 24 hours later with 'sorry, so busy, just saw this now'. He is only a friend so I don't really care, and I certainly don't want him to think I do! However, he calls me, when he wants. I don't want to be an arse and not pick up/play him at his own game as I think that will destroy our friendship. The latest thing, which REALLY took the biscuit, was that I was passing his 'workspace' (he works for himself, and is constantly suggesting I meet him down there for coffee, for some reason, maybe to look popular...) so I phoned as my meeting was cancelled. He didn't pick up, as expected, so just texted to say I was in the neighbourhood, and his reply was "I'm not there, I told you before, I need 24 hours notice." I don't give a f&ck if he was there or not, I was just passing, so held back replying from same. Also held back from saying "I have no need to make appointments to see you" and, by the same token, "perhaps you could treat my messages and phone calls with the same courtesy I treat yours". But I don't think I can let this go. I haven't contacted him but I know he'll get in touch soon suggesting something, and I'm not sure how to handle it. Just bought his bloody xmas present too. I just feel he takes me for granted. Sorry for ramble, need someone with a good interest in psychoanalysis to work this one out for me. Not as simple as 'cut him off' or YABU, to me?!
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"Friend" doesn't reply to messages because he is SO busy, but calls whenever he wants
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JeansandJumpers · 06/11/2017 12:48
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