I have been with my OH for just under 2 years, I am 5 months pregnant and we live together in his 2 bed apartment with no intention of moving elsewhere in the immediate future as we seem this to fit our needs.
My OH and his brother have always been close and we have always gone on holidays with his brother and his GF and we were all quite close!
However since I announced the pregnancy it's all gone up in the air. As me and OH we're at first discussing our options, although I made it clear from day 1 getting an abortion wasn't something I was comfortable doing. At first OH was up for keeping the baby and had the mindset of 'is there ever a right time to have a baby?' although after speaking to his brother he did a complete 180!! I said I didn't want an abortion but his brother showed him the BPAS website and told him they have been to these before but they also discuss financial situations with couples. OH sent this link to me and I was fuming, I rang to double check whether or not they discuss family finances as he said and they just said no they organise and carry out abortions.
After a discussion as a couple we decided we were happy and wanted to carry on with the pregnancy.
Since this OH's SIL has said to me that if she got pregnant now it would look like she is copying us they have never mentioned about trying for a baby as they live apart and will avoid us at all costs, if we're at his mums and she's there she will go and sit in another room, she is constantly slagging us off about how good of a childhood the baby will have growing up in an apartment to my OH!! Also how will I be able to cope financially?? the list goes on...
I don't know what to do, I am pulling my hair out at the thought of constantly being on edge and once my baby is here being called out or having people nit pick on how I am doing as a parent!
I am not confrontational at all, and hate all that. I am just guessing I needed to rant and wanted not to drip feed any information!
Is it just me or is she being weird?!
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FirstMumToBe · 06/11/2017 11:55
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