To think it's inconsiderate to text someone at half 5 in the morning

[Jesstheblackandwhitecat]

Or am I being unreasonable? Not an emergency, a colleague asking me something.

[lljkk]

Turn off text notifications overnight?

[Bratsandtwats]

Nope. YABU.

Put your phone on silent or in airplane mode or do not disturb when you go to bed. Your colleague was not expecting an immediate answer or they would have rung you.

[NovemberWitch]

Don’t you turn your alerts off, or to silent at night?

[QOD]

YES it is!
I used to have phone on silent overnight but now Dd is in uni I have to Be contactable 24/7
According to my iPhone settings dnd should allow favourites through, but it doesn’t. So I have to have it on silent but set to vibrate.
Bloody people buzz me randomly all night

[Mxyzptlk]

It doesn't bother me what time I get a text as my text notification is very quiet.
I wouldn't send a text, though, if I thought the person might be asleep in case theirs is not quiet.

[NovemberWitch]

Some of us are up that early and in bed by 10pm. Tell your colleague not to call out of hours.

[Oysterbabe]

I think it's the responsibility of the phone owner to turn off notifications when they don't want to be disturbed. Texts and emails should be sent at the convenience of the sender and read at the convenience of the recipient.

[NapQueen]

but now Dd is in uni I have to Be contactable 24/7 have to? Or choose to?

[AlpacaLypse]

I routinely send texts when I think of them. I don't expect an answer immediately. If I needed it I would phone. All smartphones have a DND facility, my own is set to 9 pm to 8 am.

[londonrach]

Yabu. Its the perfect time to text rather than call. Your problem if you dont turn your phone off. It shouldnt be in the bedroom anyway and certainly not on. Weve taken to turning wifi off over night to give our bodies a break.

[SilverSpot]

but now Dd is in uni I have to Be contactable 24/7

So set DD as a VIP number and DND the rest. Simple.

[TeenTimesTwo]

These threads always split.
Group A) The people who say if you don't want texts then turn your phone / sound off. In an emergency people can call your landline or ring if you keep the ring sound on. Texts were invented so a sender can send when convenient to them, and the receiver receives when convenient to them.

Group B) Don't have a landline because they don't need/want one, but still also have people who might want to contact them in the middle of the night urgently so have to keep their phone on. And anyway how hard is it for other people to remember the exact hours they would be willing to receive a text.

As you can probably tell, I'm in Group A.

[pinkyredrose]

Why does having a daughter in uni mean your phone must be on 24/7?

[trinity0097]

I send them to colleagues who I know get up around that time then. But the DND is key to setting up your phone. I only get calls overnight, if someone is trying to ring me I. The middle of the night it will be important.

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

@QOD There is a free phone app called Llama where you can set Do not disturb but allow "noisy contacts" to still ring your phone

This is the one reason we keep a land line. So that I can turn my phone off at night!

[Sparklingbrook]

DS is at Uni, he can call the landline at night if it's life and death, as our mobiles will be on silent.

[Jesstheblackandwhitecat]

I do like to keep my phone on, just in case there is an emergency and someone needs to get hold of me, but fair enough.

[Sparklingbrook]

I sent DH a text last week and it actually went through to his phone hours later, so they aren't always received as soon as sent.

[Ifailed]

Sparklingbrook Agree with you. There is also the situation where someone is in an area with no coverage, or they turn their phone off/run out of battery etc. If you don't want to be interrupted at night, don't have things around you that can do so.

[Goldfishshoals]

Texts and emails should be sent at the convenience of the sender and read at the convenience of the recipient.

This.

[otherdoor]

Good summary teentimestwo and I am also group A!

[BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou]

Did they actually text you at that time or was that just the time your phone received it?

A couple of weeks ago I sent my daughter (away at university) a text at around 7pm. She received it at 3am and worried enough (the text said "Hi are you around for me to call you?") to call the house phone to see if all was okay here (she knows my mobile lives downstairs but we have a landline phone upstairs).

[AutumnTreesThroughTheWindow]

I send messages when I'm awake and it's convenient for me to do so. That is often between 4 and 6am.

I expect them to be replied to when it is convenient for the recipient.

If you don't want to receive texts in the middle of the night, it's up to you to mute your phone.

[contrary13]

My daughter's boyfriend likes to text her at any point between midnight and 6am, when he presumably goes to sleep... unfortunately, no amount of pleading on my behalf results in her turning her alerts off - and when he texts her with banalities, the noise wakes me up and disturbs our dog (who then keeps me awake with his confused grumbling).

So YANBU in how inconsiderate it is - but it's your phone and YABU in not turning it off overnight.