NC'd. I work with a particularly insensitive man who routinely makes offensive comments without engaging brain, then has to backtrack to an uncomfortable degree. He once told me I'd let myself go, then seemed mortified and backtracked to a degree that left me feeling humiliated (if I wasn't humiliated enough already).
He's recently taken a course on workplace equality, which basically covered how to behave professionally and treat everyone equally. I've done the course myself and it covers gender, sexuality, disabilities, age, maternity, etc.
Instead of helping the situation, he seems to have completely missed the point of the course and his behaviour has got worse. He makes a song and dance of anything that could be construed as a sexist remark. For example if he said "postman" he would suddenly look at me (just at me) and say "or postwoman...could be a woman...in this day and age we've got to be inclusive!", then he'll pull a stupid face and turn away again.
It just seems like he's turned the whole thing into a joke. He can never take anything seriously or exercise any professionalism or even common sense in relation to these sorts of things- he's got to make it into something to be mocked. Couldn't he have just taken the course and learned something from it rather than making it part of this whole slapstick routine we seem to have to endure on a daily basis?
He obviously sees it as a tickbox exercise - if he thinks he can prove he's being "inclusive" by constantly being OTT about it, then in his mind he's going above and beyond what is expected of him. The reality is it's having the opposite effect and the sexist traits are completely on display.
What do I do about this? Is there anything I CAN or even should do about this? I've made complaints to my boss before who apparently "has a word", but it just seems to escalate his behaviour. I hate going to work because of it.
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SickOfTheComments · 05/11/2017 08:44
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