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To find books and my phone mostly more interesting than real life and people

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Bookridden Sat 04-Nov-17 21:50:53

Obviously, this is pretty unreasonable and a bit sad (in every sense), but it's the truth. I enjoy chatting to friends and colleagues, but I get bored easily. I find reading and TV more interesting in the whole. The most shameful admission is that I know, like many people, I should spend less time on social media. However, I actually find MN, Fb etc far more diverse and interesting than most real life interactions. Clearly I can never admit this to anyone, and hence this post here.

Dozyoldtwonk Sat 04-Nov-17 22:04:04

YANBU; I feel exactly the same. I love getting lost in a good TV series, or just surfing the net mumsnetting and instagramming in my own space once the DC are in bed (DH often works away). The older I get, the more I’ve come to accept that actually, I’m a bit of a loner - I like my own space & time to myself is very important to me - and I think that’s ok grin

EvilDoctorBallerinaRoastDuck Sat 04-Nov-17 22:05:10


VioletCharlotte Sat 04-Nov-17 22:07:09

I'm like this sometimes. I do like spending time with other people, but have a busy job with lots of interaction and communication and sometime I just want to sit down with my phone or my kindle.

Trills Sat 04-Nov-17 22:07:11

Often at work someone will say "are you going to the canteen?" and I'll say "I'm going to have my lunch with my book today".

Longwalkoffashortpier Sat 04-Nov-17 22:10:30

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ImSoUnoriginal Sat 04-Nov-17 22:26:49

It's reassuring to hear there are others like me. After a long day of looking after my 20 mth old or working. I just like to zone out with TV, my phone or a book on my phone! Though I like to socialise sometimes it can leave me drained.

CallingPeopleACuntOnFb Sat 04-Nov-17 22:34:09

I feel the same 🙈😳

PugwallsSummer Sat 04-Nov-17 22:36:09

Me too. I’m not even sorry. 😐

Frouby Sat 04-Nov-17 22:43:00

Me. I don't dislike people. I love my family and a couple of close friends. But have never been one to nip round to the ndn for a coffee, and I don't like visitors.

I am currently sat on my sofa, alternating between mn, fb and my book. Just waiting for the fireworks to finish and the dog to settle then am off up to bed.

I do like seeing people. Just not very often or for very long. Have always been this way.

Zone2mum Sat 04-Nov-17 22:47:07

I have taken to going to the cinema on my own too, recently. Saves feeling guilt if film I've chosen is not to companion's taste.

JustBeingJobless Sat 04-Nov-17 22:48:40

Yep I feel the same. Ds was at his dads last night and I didn’t collect him til 6pm today, so I had a lie in, then spent most of the day with the dog, under a blanket on the sofa watching Most Haunted and mumsnetting! I had the option of going for lunch with a friend but I really wasn’t in the mood for idle chitchat. I like my own company!

ButchyRestingFace Sat 04-Nov-17 22:51:17

It's not that I don't find other people interesting but I find them challenging, always have. Even the nicest of people.

I can "put up with them" and enjoy their company in small doses but feel exhausted after socialising and need to retreat into my own space.

Don't feel that way with animals. Could sit around nattering away at a good dog all day. grin

illuminousopptomist Sat 04-Nov-17 22:52:18


EnglishGirlApproximately Sat 04-Nov-17 22:55:07

Yanbu, luckily DP is the same so we rub along well together being unsociable

Dozyoldtwonk Sat 04-Nov-17 22:55:13

frouby are you me? You’ve just summed me up perfectly smile It used to bother me a bit in my younger years - in a ‘why am I always the one wanting to leave early, shouldn’t I be making the most of life and wanting to have fun’ kind of thing - but now, meh. Love it grin

Gammeldragz Sat 04-Nov-17 22:55:39

People at work find it weird that I go and sit in my car on my breaks. I don't want to be with people, it's meant to be a break!
Also prefer books to most conversations.
I spend far too much time online.

I should speak more to DH and DCs though, that is a major downside and something I want to change.

Longwalkoffashortpier Sat 04-Nov-17 22:59:54

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Openup41 Sat 04-Nov-17 23:07:03

Count me in!

I have always enjoyed my own company. I am very present when with others but need time out. I become cranky if I do not have time out.

I know of people who do very little alone. They crave to be in the company of others.

Itis6oclocksomewhere Sat 04-Nov-17 23:17:29

I really understand what you mean.
I love the company of others but I’m happy by myself.
A cup of tea and something to read makes me feel very happy.

arethereanyleftatall Sat 04-Nov-17 23:23:17

Yanbu. It's better because:
1. You choose which conversations you're involved in.
2. You choose how involved you are.
3. There's no pressure to be involved.
4. You get to say your whole piece (even if no one reads it, you've still been able to say it)
5. Loads of different opinions from all walks of life not just your own social circle.

Spongeface Sat 04-Nov-17 23:24:38

The very same. Folk who get me can stay for days but I need to schedule me time -a perfect day I call it- every so often. No speaking to anyone except texting and a good TV or book sesh. smile

MyGuideJools Sat 04-Nov-17 23:25:00

I always have lunch in my car at work. I grace my presence in the staff room at coffee break (10 mins) but that's enough chit chat. Lunch time is for silence and MN
I'm quite happy indoors alone with books, TV phone and cats grin
*this doesn't happen often as 6 adults live here!

MinesaPinot Sat 04-Nov-17 23:36:07

YANBU. I think I've got more like that as I've got older. I love DH, but am quite happy to have an evening on my own if he goes to a Lodge meeting or the like. And I'm very insular on the train in the morning, even though I travel with DH - iPod on, Kindle out and that's me locked in my own little world. Same at lunch at work - I'm quite happy to be sat at my desk with MN or my book whilst everyone else goes off to the canteen or goes out.

Carouselfish Sat 04-Nov-17 23:39:37

Good, interesting conversation is a tennis match, both of you contributing, sparking each other. The other person isn't there to entertain you like a phone. Perhaps the problem is that spending all the time on your phone or in your own head when reading a book is making your social skills less than good. Maybe you need to be more interesting in order to have more interesting interactions in the real world.

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