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To feel sad feeling after this house viewing?

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RainbowsAndCrystals Sat 04-Nov-17 19:54:31

Empty for years and still had the items in from the previous owner .. shoes, teddy bears, scrapbooks full of newspaper cuttings. Even an old highchair.

I just got a sad feeling about the place, like something bad happened there.

Aibu? Or has anyone else had a sad/error feeling about a place?

GohomeRoger Sat 04-Nov-17 20:03:30

I went to a house viewing where the previous owner had died. Everything was left as it was, including slippers next to the chair and a half drunk cup of tea on the side table. It was quite chilling and really put me off the house.

MrsScareface2 Sat 04-Nov-17 20:07:23

Oh dear sad I've never experienced this myself only bought empty properties but I can appreciate how sad this must be.

Is it the house for you? If yes I'd imagine the happiness you and your family will bring to the house and how you turn around any sadness you feel into making the house useful and loved again! If it's not the hose for you remember someone will love it again smile

MrsScareface2 Sat 04-Nov-17 20:07:33

Oh dear sad I've never experienced this myself only bought empty properties but I can appreciate how sad this must be.

Is it the house for you? If yes I'd imagine the happiness you and your family will bring to the house and how you turn around any sadness you feel into making the house useful and loved again! If it's not the hose for you remember someone will love it again smile

HughLauriesStubble Sat 04-Nov-17 20:07:46

I went to one like that. For some reason, it was the dead occupant's shower gel and bath flannel that reall perturbed me shock

AnaWinter Sat 04-Nov-17 20:09:57

Yes. There are some very expensive houses around my way where the owner has recently moved to a nursing home. The interior of the houses are really awful and it is so sad. Equally I get a huge heart pang when the owner is deceased and all their personal effects are there. It just feels so very sad and personal.

BackforGood Sat 04-Nov-17 20:17:43

You'd think that whoever is selling the house would do a 'sweep' through the house and remove personal stuff, wouldn't you ? Even if they paid someone to do it.

gillybeanz Sat 04-Nov-17 20:24:47

I don't understand this neither.
Even if the person had no family there would be friends or solicitor/ executor who would be responsible for the sale of the home.
I've never heard of it either, not that I'm calling pp's liars.

Have viewed houses where it is obviously an old person gone into a home or died, but personal effects were all removed, old bits of furniture still left in places.

KitKat1985 Sat 04-Nov-17 20:29:16

Not personal things exactly, but I have been shown down some really run down houses that were obviously lived in by an elderly person before they died, and it's so sad to think of someone spending their final days in a mouldy, grotty pit.

LapdanceShoeshine Sat 04-Nov-17 20:31:06

slippers next to the chair and a half drunk cup of tea on the side table

that's really sad & shocking sad

flyingpigsinclover Sat 04-Nov-17 20:34:33

We saw a house like that; it was as if they had walked out of the door 5 minutes earlier but the house had been empty for years.

Tiredtomybones Sat 04-Nov-17 20:35:50

In a similar vein I find it sad to see things in charity shops that have clearly come from house clearances, like crystal sets or china tea sets. They’ve been someone’s treasures and people are overlooking them when they are priced up at £1. I could weep for the owners. I regularly see things like my grandma had as wedding presents, so been in houses since the 40s or 50s. It just strikes me as a terrible cull.

RunningOutOfCharge Sat 04-Nov-17 20:37:28

Could have been a repossession op

morningconstitutional2017 Sat 04-Nov-17 20:38:35

We looked at a depressing bungalow once. It had been lived in by a lady who was disabled and it contained many items to make life easier for her but had become too difficult to cope with so she went into care. It looked a sad place, dowdy and unloved which put us off.

Chillywhippet Sat 04-Nov-17 20:39:21

We viewed a house where the occupant had died. There was a table in one room with wrapped, labelled Christmas presents and cards that the person hadn't had chance to give.

The house we bought was sad in a different way. Completely empty. Stripped bare. Wood burner removed. No furniture. Nothing. Sad and neglected.

I think you have to try to look past. We could have been happy in either house. If a house is old enough all kinds of happy and sad stuff would have happened over its life.

After we moved in the neighbours told us the last two couples who lived here got divorced. We are happy as pigs in shit. It's our favourite house we have lived in and we have no intention of moving again.

Good luck

BackforGood Sat 04-Nov-17 20:43:14

Exactly Gillybeanz - even with no family, someone has put the house on the market. Even from a purely business pov, the instructed estate agent would gain a sale much quicker, and probably get a better prce if they paid a cleaning company to spend a day or two there both cleaning and 'depersonalising' the house before putting it on the market. In terms of selling the house, the cost would be minimal but make a big difference to viewers / prospective buyers.

LunaDoot Sat 04-Nov-17 20:43:43

We viewed a house where an elderly person had recently died. No central heating, it smelt of wee and there were slippers and other belongings. Sympathy cards were on the mantlepiece so it must've been relatives selling the house.

RainbowsAndCrystals Sat 04-Nov-17 20:43:54

Sorry my title makes no sense, but obviously you understand what I meant.

I'm not sure why it's not been cleared out.

It was the hours spent on the newspaper cuttings in the scrapbooks that really upset me. I've no idea why. Bit silly really.

But it is sad to see someone's personal possessions just left behind.

I don't think it's the house for me, the project to renovate it probably too big.

BMW6 Sat 04-Nov-17 20:46:12

The saddest one I ever saw had about a dozen large soft toys sat around a table laid for tea - and they all had Christmas cracker paper hats on......<sobs quietly>

Clayhead Sat 04-Nov-17 20:47:17

You'd think that whoever is selling the house would do a 'sweep' through the house and remove personal stuff, wouldn't you ? Even if they paid someone to do it.

Exactly.

Our last house was like this, previous occupant had died. His niece and nephew removed anything of value and just the ordinary, everyday stuff was left. It was so sad. They never did remove that stuff, we ended up having to do it when we moved in.

LoafEater Sat 04-Nov-17 20:50:06

We viewed a house once where the wife had left and taken everything with her. The husband still living there had no cushions or pictures on the wall and 1 plate and 1 cup in the kitchen.

The house was great but made me totally depressed and I couldn't get out fast enough.

FloControl Sat 04-Nov-17 20:52:11

Homes Under The Hammer has occasionally featured houses that on the surface appear to have simply been abandoned. Then the facts are explained, such as a mortgage repossession or the sole resident suddenly and unexpectedly dying, being hospitalised and so on. And all their worldly goods remain as if the occupants have just nipped out and will be back in a moment...which, of course never happens. The cruelties of life; here today, gone tomorrow.

FlouncyDoves Sat 04-Nov-17 20:56:33

Just use it as an excuse to stick a low offer in and see what happens. A few hours with a roll of bin bags and it’ll be as good as new!

illuminousopptomist Sat 04-Nov-17 20:59:00

Slightly off topic but a house at the bottom of my road had a lovely elderly lady who kept her house and garden immaculate. I would often see her mowing the lawn or pruning her flowers as I walked the children to school. Her house and garden was just beautiful.

One morning I saw a skip on the drive and all her personal effects, furniture lamps rugs, clothes all thrown in all. It was unbearably poignantsad I still think about her. The was house was then bought by a property developer, he literally tore the house and garden apart and not a trace of her life there remains! Makes you wonder what the point of it all is?

FrancisCrawford Sat 04-Nov-17 21:00:18

If you have been in position of having to sell your much loved childhood Home to pay nursing home fees, perhaps you might understand all the pain and heartache many families have to face.

I took a few small precious possessions, but left everything else as it was. Once the house was sold, I had men come and empty it and the contents went to auction. It was such a sad day and I wept so many tears.

But once it was empty, it was just a house. It wasn’t my home anymore.

It was one of the worst days of my life. I had to part with so many memories.

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