Is it unreasonable to risk your own health to have another baby when you have older kids who need you to be fit and healthy?
I expect the answer is yes and yet I am finding it so hard to convince myself it’s not worth the risk.
After my 3rd I had some stress incontinence and underwent a surgery called TVT. It was successful. However recently the Press has been full of coverage of law suits from women who had TVT and were left with a life time of pain and disability. They say the scandal is bigger than thalidomide. I saw my OBGYN who advised me not to risk pregnancy as it could erode my TVT and then I could be one of the women suffering. That could in fact happen at anytime anyway, but pregnancy increases the risk.
But I’m so broody. DH and I both just lost our mothers and both would really like to add to our family. We can afford it, our other children want a sibling. If it wasn’t for the surgery there would be no doubt in my mind.
So would I be unreasonable to take the risk?
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TVTregrets · 04/11/2017 15:53
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