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Babababababybel23 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:23:56

I was lying in bed last night and for some reason I imagined myself having a heart attack and dying. And I'm only in my early twenties confused
The thought of it absolutely terrified me. I don't usually think about this kind of stuff, it just came out of nowhere. I then started thinking about an article I read about the fact that your brain still works after you die so you can still hear things. I think that is what put the most fear into me sad

Babababababybel23 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:24:54

Thread title should say you're. Bloody phone

Alisvolatpropiis Fri 03-Nov-17 23:28:50

I’m not afraid of death, insofar as being actually dead because I don’t think there is anything after death except not existing.

However I am fearful of the manner in which one can die. On the fanciful end of the scale is experience some sort of apocalyptic situation like in The Day after Tomorrow or The Walking Dead. On the less fanciful end, suffering a painful death of some kind. First and foremost I fear dying young and leaving my young daughter without her mum.

Those are the things I fear, rather than the being dead element of death being what I fear.

Sandsunsea Fri 03-Nov-17 23:30:17

Sometimes I think of death and long for it like a good nights sleep! Life can be hard and complicated and death seems easy in comparison

expatinscotland Fri 03-Nov-17 23:30:44

No, but I'm afraid of leaving my surviving children.

DrMadelineMaxwell Fri 03-Nov-17 23:32:12

I'm not scared of being dead. You don't fear being asleep on the nights you don't dream and aren't aware of anything.

I am, after watching my DDad die, afraid of dying.

I alo worry about not being there for my DC.

And I also know how hard it is to deal with the death of a parent and don't like the fact that they are going to have to go through that themselves one.

LoopyLou1981 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:33:09

I always said I never feared dying and went about my life with that belief (too many risks, drugs etc) but was always terrified of my parents dying.
I now have 2 small children and my biggest fear in life is leaving dying and leaving them. I used to think taking my own life would fix all of my problems. I’d now fight anyone to keep going for my kids x

Garlicansapphire Fri 03-Nov-17 23:33:30

Yes. I try not to think about it.

Babababababybel23 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:34:45

I have just had my first child so I think that is what may have triggered it. I can't bear the thought of leaving her. I lost my dad at 18 and don't want that for her

Unicornsandrainbows3 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:34:51

Not of death but of pain and of leaving my children too soon. Mostly I try not to think about it though.

Hotheadwheresthecoldbath Fri 03-Nov-17 23:36:23

I'm not frightened of death as it the inevitable end of life.
If I found out now I hadn't long to live then my worry would be about my dd coping,that she would have to live with my ex who she loves but hates his lifestyle and lack of empathy.
I would not like to dielike my dad who soon after diagnosis could not communicate verbally or writing but was completely mentally intact.
There are more things to fear than death.

justilou1 Fri 03-Nov-17 23:36:59

I'm not afraid of being dead, because I am rabidly atheistic. My grandmother and my parents died each died in a manner that was horrifying , so I am afraid of the dying process. Like my life, I would like some decision-making ability at the end. If I have a debilitating disease like my father (MND) I would choose euthanasia.

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid Fri 03-Nov-17 23:37:14

Yes. I have occasional moments of panic like this. Also triggered when I think of things like the universe or time. My brain can't really handle the unknowable, I find it very anxiety provoking!! I avoid this by thinking of things like gin, cheese, cats, fluffy socks and box sets. 😁

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid Fri 03-Nov-17 23:38:52

To follow from my previous comment, in my family, we call it space fear. 'Don't talk about black holes, you'll give mummy the space fear!'. Etc.

ZeppelinBend Fri 03-Nov-17 23:39:25

Sometimes no. Sometimes it hits me like a brick and I feel a bit panicked about it. Mainly try to ignore it.

I worry about leaving my dc now more than anything. The regrets I have of things I have or haven't dome are starting to weigh a bit as I get older and realise I won't be here forever.

Jojoanna Fri 03-Nov-17 23:40:18


NetballHoop Fri 03-Nov-17 23:41:39

I don't fear death at all, but I do worry about the process of dieing.

We need as a society to allow people to have dignity and choice in death which includes letting them choose to die.

happy2bhomely Fri 03-Nov-17 23:42:30

I am scared of leaving my children. And of losing my children.

I am scared of getting old or sick.

crookedhooker Fri 03-Nov-17 23:42:58

I worry what will happen DS he won't be able to live independently due to his SN no other family to step in.

Longdistance Fri 03-Nov-17 23:43:04

Not scared as such.

I would prefer it to be in my sleep.

The only thing that worries me is the people I’d leave behind.

scaryteacher Fri 03-Nov-17 23:44:54

Yes, always have been, as I think it will be dark, and I don't like the dark. I can't get my head around the thought of not being, although I know that I 'wasn't' before I was conceived.

clownfaces Fri 03-Nov-17 23:47:32

Yes. A couple of years ago I got really worked up about it. I know it is inevitable and it is the thought that I will be gone. I will never see anything ever again. I will never hear anything again. I will just cease to exist. It is too massive to contemplate. sad

Ginmewinewinewine Fri 03-Nov-17 23:49:23

I am scared of leaving my dc and dh and worry about the impact it would have on them.
But I am not scared Or afraid of death as such. Maybe the process of passing but once I'm gone, I'm gone. I won't know anything about it.

I am scared

Ginmewinewinewine Fri 03-Nov-17 23:50:08

Of leaving people behind

Cantseethewoods Fri 03-Nov-17 23:50:31

TBH, yes. I’m scared of not existing/ceasing to be. It’s something I find hard to conceptualise. In respect of the actual process, I really don’t want to have a long period of ill health. I’d rather have a heart attack and drop dead at 70 than live to 90 after 15 years of dementia or just general frailty/pain.

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