To be finding it hard having husband at home all day ?

[Inkandbone]

I probably am BU. But he does my head in.

He won't stay still. Constant prowling around and clearing up after me even if it's something I'm using throwing away drinks I haven't finished drinking, putting cardigans I've just taken off coz I'm hot into the wash. Talking to himself but me really, so a monologue of what's going on and then expecting a reaction from me. I can't do anything without him asking me questions.

I know it's partly irritation from being underneath each others feet but is this what i have to look forward go in my dotage?

[bluebells1]

Ugh! Mine is the same, especially during the weekends. I hate the weekends. I love mondays when it is just the dog and me.

[Inkandbone]

I need to get him back to work.

[cheminotte]

Yanbu. I find Christmas hard because of this and am happy to get back to work.

[ijustwannadance]

Tell him to stop doing it.

[Inkandbone]

Well, yes! That would be great advice if he ever listened!

[cailisto]

Yes! Mine works at home (didn’t use to) and does my head in. He’s so fucking annoying but what really winds me up is that he sees through anything/everything in the house that needs to be done. When I work from Home, if I’m going downstairs to get a drink I’ll take the washing down at the same time and put it in the machine. That kind of thing.

[Muchtoomuchtodo]

That would piss me off too.

What's happened that means he's at home more than usual? Is it likely to be for long?

[Inkandbone]

He is signed off and I really hope it won't be for much longer as I cannot cope.

It also makes me sad in a way. I used to love spending time with him.

[Muchtoomuchtodo]

You could be me.

While DH was off work after having an operation a coupe of years ago I worked as much as I could to avoid being at home with him.

I delegated some jobs that had mysteriously become something that only I could do since having dc (meal planning, online food shop, organising cards and presents for his side of the family) and I have never taken them back!

We're not the closest of couples though (huge understatement) so I may not be the best to advise!

[CupanTaeAnois]

Mine drives me nuts as well. Constantly finding jobs to do and jobs taking much longer than he expected.

[LostForNow]

Why don't you go to work while he's not?

[oldlaundbooth]

This is why mine works full time.

[rachelandmike77]

Oh no sounds v annoying. Hate when they can’t leave you in peace or are just constantly hovering around. YANBU, everyone needs their space

What does he say when you say you’re still drinking/using whatever he’s tidying up?

How would he react if you’d asked to be left alone for a few hours while you catch up on work etc?

[Ladybirdbookworm]

Aw Gaad I hate when my husband has an 'admin day' they are few and far between and I know he needs to catch up on his paperwork but he's just in my face and I feel like like I'm creeping around , trying not to disturb him .....and it means I feel like I have to look like I'm busy being housewife of the year when I'd rather be watching bargain hunt

[chocafrolic]

This is why I went back to work after being a SAHM for years. He drove me absolutely nuts!!

[MoodyMumOfOne]

Sorry but laughing at some of these posts as I can identify with what is being said! I often manage to develop a migraine so I can hide in bed for a bit... with MN for company of course

[justilou1]

I'm hearing you, Lady! Mine is has been off work for a month now. If nothing new comes up soon, I shall be getting snappy.

[Inkandbone]

lost, I'm mostly a SAHM. I do bits of supply work but its v thin on the ground.

[RefuseTheLies]

My DH works from home one day a week. He started doing it when we had newborn DD so that he could do some of the childcare and I could catch up on sleep. I was very grateful at the time.

DD is now 2 y/o and DH still wfh one day per week and it is the worst day of my entire week because I'm toddler wrangling and DH is constantly trying to tidy up the toys DD is playing with, and tutting about toast crumbs

It drives me mad. If I leave a cup unattended for more than 30 seconds, the contents have been tipped down the sink and the cup is in the dishwasher.

[InspMorse]

Hmm. I'm torn OP. He's signed off work so obviously needs to be at home.
The examples you give aren't exactly massive issues - if you had said he marches round the house ranting & picking arguments, I'd get it completely.
However, it sounds like he's just faffing around disturbing your indulgent peace & quiet.
This would also do my head it because I'm a selfish cow but I think if my DH was signed off sick I'd have to just put up with it or go out more often.

[ElinoristhenewEnid]

My dh has been at full time home since 1991. I love the occasional day when someone takes him out for a few hours and i am all by myself😁

[DameDaffodil]

Argh, mine works from home too. Just knowing he's there in another room drives me crazy. I'm always casually asking when he has to go somewhere for a meeting so I can enjoy a day without him. Apparently there's nothing this side of Christmas that he needs to go to! Heeelllpppp!

[Ropsleybunny]

You have to make him bloody listen to you, don’t be such a doormat.

[whoareyoukidding]

Mine is the same when he's at home: following me around and interfering with what I'm doing, but at the same time not doing anything useful.

[whoareyoukidding]

His presence completely ruins it when I'm trying to watch 'say yes to the dress'.