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To not understand this etiquette 'rule'

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Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 09:53:51

I was coming into my children's school a few days ago, I have a pram and another lady with a pram moved hers over slightly as I was coming through (talking like an inch) anyway as I passed she rudely huffed "ugh your welcome!" I was abit taken aback. Now since then (and when ever I do it before anyway) no one ever "thanks" me. I've just moved out the way for a woman and a man and two kids and didn't get any acknowledgement. I also always move my pram out for another one to fit in and it's very rare anyone says thanks they usually just roll it in. I don't expect a thanks but also don't understand why some people get angry/rude about it. So what are the 'rules'?

Only1scoop Fri 03-Nov-17 09:55:18

She moved her pram

A simple natural 'thank you' would have been all I said.

Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 09:56:30

As I'm saying I do it all the time and never get thanked but equally I don't have a go at people about it so wonderig what the "rule" is

PrincessoftheSea Fri 03-Nov-17 09:57:57

Good manners is to say thank you if someone moves out of the way for you. Cannot people people have to askshock

Bluntness100 Fri 03-Nov-17 09:58:01

I would always say thanks if someone moved for me, if I moved for someone and they didn’t acknowledge it, I would not say anything, but I’d momentarily think “rude twat”.

Only1scoop Fri 03-Nov-17 09:58:12

'no one ever "thanks" me.'

They lack manners then.

PrincessoftheSea Fri 03-Nov-17 09:58:27

Cannot believe...

GreenTulips Fri 03-Nov-17 09:58:42

Manners cost nothing, she expected manners, as would I!!

As you don't you're not offended, but you were rude

Others being rude leads to more rudeness

As you're in a school perhaps you could lead by example for the next generation

Only1scoop Fri 03-Nov-17 09:58:54



Trailedanderror Fri 03-Nov-17 09:59:27

Did you not even make eye contact?

wasonthelist Fri 03-Nov-17 10:00:03

There is no rule. Say thank you if you wish to be polite, just be an ignorant git if you prefer. As for whether anyone thanks you - it’s life not double entry bookkeeping

Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 10:01:51

I was in a rush so hasn't really noticed my point still is people rarely thank me. Buses where I am you sometimes have to physically remove your pram from the space into the aisle to let someone else in an I never get a thanks. And I always wait for people to come past me at the school, the path is quite narrow. Again no thanks.

Butteredparsn1ps Fri 03-Nov-17 10:01:55

It’s always better to be polite. Say thank you, but accept that there are rude feckers out there who won’t thank you in turn.

As it’s school, and people you will probably see regularly, it’s worth a friendly nod surely?

Nocabbageinmyeye Fri 03-Nov-17 10:02:04

Course you say thanks. You mean someone would move their pram S d you would just pass, no smile, thanks, nice weather, nothing? God people lack basic politeness. Just cause other people are rude doesn't mean you need to be

Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 10:03:23

It was packed with people coming out so no I didn't specially draw her out of the crowd to make eye contact with her as I hadn't actually noticed her till after she went "ugh your welcome".

Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 10:04:35

Like I said I always wait to let others out at the school. Very narrow path. Never been thanked.

isthismummy Fri 03-Nov-17 10:04:50

Is this a wind up?

She moved her pram for you. She should have been thanked. It's called having basic manners.

Only1scoop Fri 03-Nov-17 10:05:24

My manners come naturally

I don't have to think about using them really.

She expected common courtesy <even in this extremely busy school environment> and it was lacking.

Rightsaidmabel Fri 03-Nov-17 10:05:44

Another person has recognised your need:in this case,for a little more space.They have made an effort ,however little was required,to help you.
As a human being,you show appreciation for that small gesture.Don't bother if you prefer to join the ranks of those who don't,but it's a bleak world without this small foundation of courtesy,kindness and mutual understanding.

isthismummy Fri 03-Nov-17 10:06:03

She people might not thank you op, but they really should. People are getting more ill mannered in general, but it's not a good thing. I was brought up to ALWAYS thank people.

GreenTulips Fri 03-Nov-17 10:06:06

Maybe she's done it countless times and you've never said thanks? Maybe she's fed up of you're rudeness and called you up on it?

gamerwidow Fri 03-Nov-17 10:07:14

It is polite to say thank you or at the very least to look at the person moving and smile and nod to acknowledge them.
I always say thank you to people who move out of the way or hold doors open or do any of the basic friendly transactions that make life easier. Try doing it more, you’ll find people do it back to you and it makes life so much brighter.

Trailedanderror Fri 03-Nov-17 10:07:50

Please take on board this: it'll transform your life.
Smile and make eye contact. Everywhere. You'll find the world is a lot friendlier place, you'll get lots of thank yous back. Perhaps you look a bit distracted or stressed and that's why people aren't reacting to you.

Cheeseontoastie Fri 03-Nov-17 10:07:54

Never seen her before tbh. I see many of the same mums who don't thank me. Anyway I was asking why people done generally do it. Rather than why I didn't do it once. They can't all be rude?

Temporaryanonymity Fri 03-Nov-17 10:08:09

Well,her response was pretty rude so any manners she might have displayed in moving are cancelled out.. Says more about her I think.

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