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Average amount to put in wedding card?

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Jammingmarg Thu 02-Nov-17 19:23:47

How much do you put in a wedding card in place of a gift?
Last year we went to sil wedding, the day before the wedding in passing she said she'd been invited to a wedding but for whatever reason couldn't go so she put in £X into a card as that's the standard amount to give. I had actually put in a bit less so I put more in. Then it's was bil wedding so put in the same amount. So in a few months we get married and sil has said she can't come but will put money in a card and send it with someone on the day, the amount she said is around 20% of what we gave her.
To be clear I'm grateful for any gift and not expecting everyone to throw money and gifts but felt a little put out a friend gets the "standard" and we get so little by comparison. She's recently been showcased her new wealth and comfortable life style, high earner husband.
So I know it's not a case of that's the standard amount but money is tight.

I'm asking this as including sil I have given this amount for 4 couples in the last year and have 2 more by the end of the year. So I don't know if she was being grabby saying that knowing I wouldn't want to look bad and would give that amount or if she's just giving us a smaller amount.

RedSkyAtNight Thu 02-Nov-17 19:26:45

I would imagine this depends wildly on your family income, the circles you move in, and how close you are to the couple getting married.

I'd give £50 for a good friend but maybe only £10 for a work colleague.

TheNewMrs Thu 02-Nov-17 19:28:11

We got anywhere between £20 and £50 in our wedding cards smile

Vinorosso74 Thu 02-Nov-17 19:30:09

Totally depends on your own finances. Recently went to a wedding of two former work colleagues-I am friends if both, more so the bride and gave £60.

AhWoof Thu 02-Nov-17 19:34:05

Got £20 from a close friend right up to £200 from our next-door neighbour we’d only known 6 months!! I usually give £50. More for a close friend/family member and less if I’m just invited to the evening do.

DumbledoresApprentice Thu 02-Nov-17 19:36:11

Evening only- £30
All day- £50-£60
If I didn’t actually attend the wedding I might put £10-20 in the card.

Katinkka Thu 02-Nov-17 19:36:30


BernardBlacksHangover Thu 02-Nov-17 19:38:09

Evening - £30
All day - £60-£100

CandyMelts Thu 02-Nov-17 19:40:51

£100 from us as a couple, bit more if one of us is best man, bridesmaid etc.
Last one I went to evening do alone so gave £15 as part of a group of friends.

Having recently got married we realised we've probably been slightly over generous but all previous weddings were people we were very close too.

Tilikum Thu 02-Nov-17 19:41:31

What was the £X that she told you *OP? If she dropped it into conversation the day before her wedding then yes, I'd think that she was being grabby and trying to inflate your gift.

I'd give £50 for a friend and £100 for a family member.

ourkidmolly Thu 02-Nov-17 19:43:14

£200-300 for family. £100-£200 for friends depending on closeness. £50 for colleagues or if I don’t go.

MrsGB2225 Thu 02-Nov-17 19:43:56

50-100 for the day

RuggerHug Thu 02-Nov-17 19:45:27

€100-200. But I'm aware wedding amounts here are insane.

flingingmelon Thu 02-Nov-17 19:48:43

I agree that it’s entirely dependent on the couple, the wedding and your income.

I’ve always thought about £100-200 as a couple, depending on who it is. But close family with not much in the bank, we’d probably be much more generous.

MaidOfStars Thu 02-Nov-17 19:49:30

£100 for both of us all day.
£30-50 for evening (just one or both, respectively).

Fortunately, I don't often give money at weddings, having never received a request for it. Cash goes to husband's friends because he can never be arsed to buy a gift. And it comes out of his bloody account too grin

We received money gifts between £30-200 (with a truly exceptional amount from a very close family friend, but that's an outlier).

CaptainHammer Thu 02-Nov-17 19:53:15

Anywhere between £20-50 depending on how close we are to the couple.

PussCatTheGoldfish Thu 02-Nov-17 19:54:50

My friendship group all got married in the same year. We were all younger and skint. We all exchanged probably the exact same £20 notes. grin

thecolonelbumminganugget Thu 02-Nov-17 20:03:07

Evening £30. All day it depends how well I know the couple £50-75 ish but I'd rather buy off a gift list. I'd only buy a gift where there's no list if i knew the couples taste as well as I know my own. Gift list is the holy grail imo

MazDazzle Thu 02-Nov-17 20:03:35

As a couple...
Evening invitation only - £50
Whole day - £150 minimum

I live in quite a traditional, working class area in the North of Scotland and wedding gifts are usually very generous. In my experience, the posher the do the less generous the gifts!

Regardless, it seems mean that you were given less than her standard amount.

YellowMakesMeSmile Thu 02-Nov-17 20:11:39

I don't know, maybe £30? I never gift cash though as hate requests for it.

stopfuckingshoutingatme Thu 02-Nov-17 20:13:53

I recently gave 100 but the hen do was free and was local so no hotel !
Ranges from 50 to 100

kaytee87 Thu 02-Nov-17 20:14:40

We received around £20-£30 from evening guests and anything from £50-£200 from day time guests.
We usually give £30 for evening and £100 full day as it’s usually someone close.

ShesAStar Thu 02-Nov-17 20:21:50

I give £100, I'd only give more to a close relative. I guess I'd give £200 for my brother and maybe £150 for a close cousin.

kaytee87 Thu 02-Nov-17 20:26:51

I think the reason hospitals feed bf mothers is because they are not providing milk for those children so are feeding their milk source iyswim? They are providing formula for ff babies, even if it’s not a brand you use.

kaytee87 Thu 02-Nov-17 20:27:07

Wrong thread!

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