Skateboarding repeatedly outside of my house late at night.

[WineIsTheAnswer]

Background - Neighbour's DS is roughly 13. He is often seen around town other areas late at night alone or with a few friends. I know him to say hi to, he's come round to shelter if he's forgot his key. I have young DC, 2 have SEN. We live in a cul-de-sac, we are the first house a safe distance from the main road but have about 15 houses past us. About 3-4times a week he skates with a friend outside our house until 8.30 it's noisy and repetitive but I ignore it as once DC are asleep it doesn't wake them. Infrequently he skates later.

Last night he and a friend had been skating from 7pm until at about 10.30 I went out explained that it was keeping DC from sleeping and could he skate else where or futher down the road where he's less likely to disrupt (no other DC in the other houses)

[WineIsTheAnswer]

Sorry presses post too soon.

He left with friend quickly and without issue. His mum came to me this morning shouting that I had embarrassed her some telling him off and she would make sure he skates as long as he likes and I can't stop him. I tried to reason that past 10.30 it's unfair to allow him to disrupt others sleep but it was left with her jumping in her car telling me to stay away from her child.

So would you ask noise/vibrations to stop at 10.30 or should I have left him to it.

[Lethaldrizzle]

Yanbu at all! I woukd have gone out earlier

[MyKingdomForBrie]

Poor lad, sounds like a nice boy with a dickhead for a mum. Nothing wrong with what you did.

[ElsieMc]

No YANBU at all. I had this in a cul-de-sac when kids came from other streets nearby to do this with ramps etc in the road because there was less traffic. However, it didn't go on as late as you are putting up with. The mother sounds nuts and has a right cheek given your kindness to her ds on other occasions. Don't let her bully you out of asking him to stop when it gets late and its unreasonable.

Mind you, when they stopped, my ndn's son started kicking a ball at their metal garage door for hours on end and well into the evening when my kids were trying to sleep. OMG I felt murderous. For some reason, people cannot hear the noise of their own children.

[PandorasXbox]

Mother sounds awful. Yanbu at all. I’m not sure what else you could do though. Hopefully the boy is more considerate than his mother and he will take heed of what you’ve said!

[snorkmaiden68]

Sounds like it was all fine till mum from hell intervened. The kids probably knew they were pushing it that late outside your house and accepted what you said.
Perhaps she's on the defensive feeling you are getting at her as a parent. It's weird what goes through some people s heads. My ds and friends used to skateboard but usually used a local park. But if he'd been outside someone s house with young dc at that time I would have stopped him. Yanbu

[sanddune11]

Can't understand why the lad bothered telling his mum. Perhaps he was after her backing or reassurance that he can basically do what he likes. Stupid mother.

[BabsGangoolies]

Do you have a car you can park strategically? Are your neighbours equally pissed off with it? Do they have cars?????

[CoffeenoTea]

Cctv should stop them. it has stoped kids by us .

[Swizzlesticks23]

I'd speak to the son again and say sorry didn't mean to upset you yesterday it's just a bit noisey and my kids get jealous they see you skating whilst they should be in bed

Last thing you want is him being locked out and to scared to come round in the future he probably knows his mums a botch

[movingtowardsthelight]

If it becomes a regular problem, an easy solution that will encourage them to move to another location is gravel.
A bag of dark pea gravel scattered. It won’t damage any tyres but it makes a smooth surface a bit bumpy so not as much fun to use skateboards directly outside your house.

The only thing is it will stop play at all times, not just the later hours.