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To think this woman was bonkers to think this would be allowed?

(38 Posts)
Aliveinwanderland Tue 31-Oct-17 17:09:15

Daily mail so I apologise- but this women is claiming a speed awareness course wouldn’t let her breastfeed her baby.

Very poor reporting but AIBU to think the women was mad to think bringing a baby to the course was ok?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5034899/Mother-told-couldn-t-breastfeed-speed-awareness-course.html

MyDcAreMarvel Tue 31-Oct-17 17:10:27

No not really, the baby was a newborn. Can't see an issue.

scurryfunge Tue 31-Oct-17 17:11:19

I bet she won't be speeding again smile

Aliveinwanderland Tue 31-Oct-17 17:12:45

But a speed awareness course is for people who are completing it instead of taking points on their licence. It’s a big deal and shouldn’t be minimised by allowing distractions such as babies in.

If you allow a newborn at what point do you draw the line? Could I bring my one year old who is breastfeeding but would be crawling round everywhere jabbering his head off?

LurkingHusband Tue 31-Oct-17 17:14:13

Sounds a familiar story hmm

BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried Tue 31-Oct-17 17:14:14

If you allow a newborn at what point do you draw the line?

6 months?

I can’t see the issue with a newborn being there.

Farahilda Tue 31-Oct-17 17:14:56

There have been threads on this before.

Remember this is an optional alternative to points/fine.

Reasonable adjustments can and usually are made, so the mother can feed during all breaks in the course. If your baby cannot be left for 90 minutes, then this might not be an option that can be made to work. You need a nanny or similar to look after the baby when the perpetrator is actually in the sessions.

Unlike jury service, additional childcare is not publicly funded for these courses.

TobleroneBoo Tue 31-Oct-17 17:15:22

This was posted on here before - as in, posted by the mother asking AIBU

MargaretTwatyer Tue 31-Oct-17 17:15:37

Yep. Completely bonkers. Those courses are absolutely shit hot on making sure people are giving 100% attention to the course and make no exceptions. They agreed someone could accompany her and she could take breaks to feed as necessary but she is refusing. She says nobody but her husband could help and he will need to be with the other two children. But he's a GP, so it's not like they couldn't afford a sitter for the other two if he came with her.

ownedbySWD Tue 31-Oct-17 17:17:10

I was breastfeeding when I took this course 9 years ago. DH brought me the baby during the breaks, and the instructor graciously gave me leeway if I was late coming back. It never occurred to me to kick up a fuss.

Buglife Tue 31-Oct-17 17:19:07

The point of this course is that people PAY ATTENTION, it's not supposed to be just a case of you've turned up so swerved points on your fine. With the best will in the world sitting with your newborn there the whole feeding and winding and potentially changing them is going to mean you are quite often not going to be listening to what's happening and will probably distract other people. So you either get someone to sit outside holding the baby and feed it in breaks or you accept you can't do it and take the points.

LoverOfCake Tue 31-Oct-17 17:22:16

Well she should have thought of that before breaking the speed limit.

PinkHeart5914 Tue 31-Oct-17 17:23:55

Well if she didn’t want to do the course because of the baby she shouldn’t of been speeding!

The point of the course is you pay attention because you’ve been caught speeding, not take your baby a long for a day out.

People like her fucking amaze me, talk about entitled much

LadyWithLapdog Tue 31-Oct-17 17:34:14

I thought the course was only a few hours, why is this quite such an issue in terms of cost for babysitter, expressing milk etc.

Pengggwn Tue 31-Oct-17 17:37:33

She was speeding, she broke the law. The speed awareness course is an alternative to court. She needs to arrange childcare or go to court. There is no 'adjustment' to be made for this, as her attention needs to be on what she is doing. If that isn't possible, tough, she should drive within the limit.

PerspicaciaTick Tue 31-Oct-17 17:38:04

I don't understand why she couldn't breastfeed during the course.

Pengggwn Tue 31-Oct-17 17:42:23

PerspicaciaTick

She could. The feeding is nothing to do with this, really. What she couldn't do was combine the course with childcare.

SilverSpot Tue 31-Oct-17 17:43:20

Dunno why she didn't just take the points.

YouCantArgueWithStupid Tue 31-Oct-17 17:47:14

I’ve missed a trick! DD BF til she was over 2! The meetings I could’ve got out of, could she have come to work with me for 2 years? Would’ve saved a fortune in childcare! hmm

thenightsky Tue 31-Oct-17 17:50:02

I've done one of these courses quite recently. You need to have 100% concentration. I'd certainly not have been able to feed, wind etc whilst doing it.

McTufty Tue 31-Oct-17 18:05:04

I think she is having a laugh. Not only would she be less likely to be paying attention but if baby was fractious it would distract others too.

I am a big believer in breastfeeding but I do not agree that breastfeeding means you can do everything you would do if you didn’t have a baby and expect to take baby with you. That’s unrealistic and entitled.

HannahHut Tue 31-Oct-17 22:17:27

YABU, this isn't about being able to breastfeed, its about entitled parents believing they can take their children everywhere. Sometimes its just not appropriate.

BarbarianMum Tue 31-Oct-17 22:21:17

You can breastfeed during a course, there are breaks. You can get someone to wait outside the room with the baby. What you can't do is take care of your baby whilst on the course or get your dh to sit in the waiting room w baby and two other small children in tow! It's not a bloody creche.

And is you cant make suitable arrangements then take the points.

HannahHut Tue 31-Oct-17 22:22:37

*YANBU

Crispbutty Tue 31-Oct-17 22:24:25

I've done the course. They are held in hotels usually.

There are plenty of breaks during the course for her to go somewhere private within the hotel to feed her child. And her husband or any other family member or friend could wait outside the course room.

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