Earlier this year myself, dp and 2 friends thought about going away for 3 nights in December for my birthday. We have a Dd who was going to stay with dp family.
These past 2 weeks I've mentioned about booking flights and hotel and all I've got was " I don't know what to do yet ". He needs to pay to have his car done and this week we have had bailiffs at our door because he didn't pay a speeding fine months ago!! It's £650 and he's set up to pay in instalments. Again tonight he's said about everything that needs paying when really it's just stuff he wants/needs.
So I mentioned about maybe just I go with a friend, he's got arsey saying oh you just want to go with your mate I see now!
Aibu to be fucked off? I've only got back to work this year (Thank god) and have my own money, I can pay for the trip. I rarely got a penny out of him when I was at home, and it was ok for him to book a break away to the same place with his friends!
Looking back when I was a sahm and how I was so fed up of not managing bills, getting into debt and living in the same clothes because I had no money, and now I am able to support myself and Dd after this last week with the whole bailiff thing I'm just thinking to myself WTF am I doing? I am so much better of financially and probably in other ways without him.
YADNBU @WellitsOk! I thought “fair enough” when you mentioned going away for a short break without him given that he’s been so financially irresponsible, but it just got worse. Sounds like he has been/is being really quite selfish (can’t believe it when you said he withheld money whilst you were looking after your DD and went away himself!!!) You should def book a trip and enjoy your birthday 😊 and I wouldnt blame you if you dumped his sorry ass the second you got home either
Go with your friend. He sounds like he was stalling and making excuses anyway so sack him off. It also sounds like he doesn't like you being financially independant, which is not a good trait in a partner.
I'd advise that you get rid and get his name off your address before you go anywhere. You don't want to come home and find the bailiffs have cleared out your house because he is an irresponsible arse who hasn't paid his bills. Honestly, get your house in order and ditch this loser and I guarantee you'll have a much more relaxing and fun time away!
There aren't many advantages to being with this man, are there? Allowing a speeding fine to escalate to the hundreds, plus bailiffs, is childish and irresponsible. Quite apart from his wanting you to pay for him left, right and centre.
Suggest you consider v seriously separating yourself from him; setting up access (if he is your child's father); being an independent person and thinker. Good luck!