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BLUESEAPARADISE Mon 30-Oct-17 17:57:10

We have DC friend over tonight and we are all having chicken pie, roast potatoes, peas, carrots and Yorkshire pudding with gravy,

The friend is incredibly fussy ( and I understand it's very difficult as my DC is fussy) however his mum has told me to give him a roast dinner just like everyone else to try and encourage him to try something.

How would you serve the meal with as little stress as possible? One potato? Or a small bit of potato? One carrot? One pea?? How about the pie?!

The friend apparently is very unlucky to try any of it but mum still wants me to serve it to him in a hope he will try!

I don't really want to overwhelm him with a large plate of food but It would be nice to say to his mum when he picks up that he has had something!

Sorry for this post I am such a worrier!

Any tips on how to support a child ( who isn't yours) who is incredibly fussy?

arethereanyleftatall Mon 30-Oct-17 17:58:57

I would put it all in the middle of the table and let them help themselves.

uptheclydeinabananaboat Mon 30-Oct-17 17:59:05

Marks and Spencer do a kid's meal which is a roast dinner for one. It would be a cheap alternative?

Ollivander84 Mon 30-Oct-17 17:59:54

Let him help himself? Or plate it up so he chooses "one carrot or two?" type thing

grannysmiff Mon 30-Oct-17 18:00:09

.......just serve him a normal serving and see what happens?

Gotta say though thats a fuck load of carbs.

PortlyWino Mon 30-Oct-17 18:00:21

I’d put pie on the plate and the rest in the middle and not stress about it.

Pengggwn Mon 30-Oct-17 18:00:38

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BackBoiler Mon 30-Oct-17 18:00:39

I've never had chicken pie and Yorkshire pudding.

Just give a small portion like you said and see if he wants any seconds. Offer dessert if you are serving it, even if he/she leaves the main dish.

niccyb Mon 30-Oct-17 18:01:05

I would serve as you would your child and encourage him to have it

bruffin Mon 30-Oct-17 18:02:05

Carb police out alreadyhmm

Shylo Mon 30-Oct-17 18:02:41

My kids would do a lot better if it was all in the middle and they could help themselves

Good luck OP

Hidingtonothing Mon 30-Oct-17 18:02:51

I would give him the same as your DC, tell him to eat what he wants and don't put any pressure on him. Eating 'out' can be stressful enough for picky eaters so I would just want him to be comfortable and happy in your home. Maybe seeing your DC eating might encourage him but I would just want him to have a nice time tbh.

MrsJayy Mon 30-Oct-17 18:03:16

I would just serve what yours will eat ask if they want gravy and just crack on eating and don't make a thing of ot

grannysmiff Mon 30-Oct-17 18:03:26

Well i mean you gotta admit...that's pastry, potato and baked a single meal!

DingleBerries Mon 30-Oct-17 18:03:26

Just a smaller amount that your other DC.

Isn’t pretty simple really. confused

AssassinatedBeauty Mon 30-Oct-17 18:04:13

If it's all in the middle to help themselves then what happens if the child decides not to serve themselves anything? It would be less stressful to put a small amount of everything on the plate. He can ask for more of anything he particularly likes.

AlexanderHamilton Mon 30-Oct-17 18:04:37

If you put that all on a plate for Ds he wouldn't eat any of it.

However if you put it in serving dishes & he could help himself he'd have at least half of the meal.

Hissy Mon 30-Oct-17 18:05:02

Serve what you’re having, put a small amount on his plate and don’t make any kind of fuss

Chances are, he may actually eat it.

MrsJayy Mon 30-Oct-17 18:05:06

Children need carbs granny

WhooooAmI24601 Mon 30-Oct-17 18:06:05

If it's all in the middle to help themselves then what happens if the child decides not to serve themselves anything?

I can't imagine a child would sit and eat nothing, surely they'd just have a little of what they like? We do this often with roast dinners and the DCs love helping themselves to their favourite veg.

dementedpixie Mon 30-Oct-17 18:06:13

Its not a roast dinner if its a pie! Maybe serve the main elements and let him pick what veg he wants?

AssassinatedBeauty Mon 30-Oct-17 18:07:13

If he's very fussy he might not want anything. He's been described as "incredibly" fussy, so it is a possibility.

arethereanyleftatall Mon 30-Oct-17 18:07:49

It's quite lucky there's lots of carbs for the ops situation. Fussy child could refuse two of the three and still have enough carbs.

fucksakefay Mon 30-Oct-17 18:08:01

Yep small amount of everything, keep good groups separate esp messy food like sauces. Leave him to add gravy. Ask if he wants ketchup if he likes it he might try an unfamiliar food group with ketchup.
Say cheerily at the start, why don't you have a try of everything but don't worry if you don't want to eat it all.
I'd serve a dessert he likes
If he's not staying the night his mum will no doubt fill him up when she gets him back, just say he didn't eat much.
I was a really fussy child and not having a fuss made was best, just taking the plate away at the end of the meal without nagging to eat a bit more

BLUESEAPARADISE Mon 30-Oct-17 18:08:05

@grannysmiff I understand it isn't the best meal in the world but as I have said before my DC Is incredibly fussy!

My DS is nine and has autism.., this is the meal he has asked for ..For the past couple of weeks all he has eaten has been chicken burgers and salt and vinegar crisps ( I have tried and tried to get him to have something else .. and after 2 weeks he is finally agreeing to it)

I really do understand this isn't the most ideal meal but after 2 weeks of my son Only eating chicken burgers and salt and vinegar crisps ( ever meal time) I am just grateful he is having something else.

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