Just that really.
I have experienced a number of people who are always late when we meet for coffee or for a night out. Anything from 20 minutes to 50 minutes late. (I am talking about when there was a specific time made, not a 'see you between 8 and 9' kind of thing.) Yet they seem to never be late for the doctors or dentists or hospital appointments, or for work.
So why are they always late for meeting with friends? Or turning up at your house? I am sick and tired of inviting someone around, and they roll up half hour to an hour after the agreed time. So you're sitting there like a muppet, with the food spoiling or going cool, waiting for the entitled princesses.
I even had someone the other week text me and say 'we're at a loose end, (her and her DH,) shall we pop around for a coffee?' I answered and said 'maybe just for half hour as DH has work this evening (he was on 8pm to 8am.) 'Be there in 10 minutes' she texted back. Half hour later, she still wasn't here, so I phoned her and said 'you still coming?' 'Be there in a minute' was her reply. It was another 25 minutes before she came.
There are numerous other examples. Like my daughter (now grown) used to have a friend who was constantly 20 to 40 minutes late. Sometimes more than an hour. Her bloody mother never got her to our house on time when she was coming around, and she never came on time when she was meant to be meeting her somewhere, and I was with her waiting. (I am talking about when she was about 10, and they were meeting in town.)
This one time her and her mother threw a massive strop when me and my daughter left the arranged meeting point in the town centre, after waiting for 35 minutes after the arranged meeting time, They were meant to be meeting to go to the bowling alley, and after over half an hour I said 'I am pissed off with this shit,' and my daughter said 'me too' and we went home.
Her mother was 'incensed' apparently, that she had taken time out of her day to go ALL the way up town, 4 miles away, and we weren't there when she got there. Errrr we were there actually, on time; YOU were the one who was late. My daughter's friend said 'we couldn't help being late, the traffic was slow.' My daughter said 'what about the other 25 times you've been late this year?' The girl and her mother were entitled little divas, and 10 years later, they still are.
I did the same to a 'friend' 6 months ago, who is always late to meet; (I mean often 30 to 45 minutes late.) After 25 minutes of waiting, I left. Shockingly, she texted me 45 minutes after we were meant to be meeting, and said 'where are you?' I said 'I left as I thought you weren't coming.' She got most offended, and said 'well you could have contacted me to check where I was and if I was OK, I could have been in a car crash, or something bad could have happened, and that was why I was late.' I said 'did any of those things happen? Were any of those things the reason you were three quarters of an hour late?' 'No,' she said, 'I just got tied up with something else. I am a bit pissed off you didn't wait, after I had driven 10 miles to meet you...' I said 'I didn't think there would be an actual valid reason for you keeping me waiting; there never has been on the other multiple dozens of times.' Then I switched off my phone. Haven't seen her since, or heard from her. No loss.
So why are people like this? How come they can get to work on time, and to important appointments, but can't get to arranged meetings with their friends on time? Are they just so self absorbed and self serving that they think everyone should wait until they are ready to turn up? Do they give that little of a shit about their friends? Do they think their time is more important than theirs?
Anyone got any clues, answers, responses??? Is there anyone here who does this, and why do you think it's OK to treat your friends like shit?
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bellagood · 30/10/2017 11:07
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