To expect him to sort his own drunk mess out

[G1988]

My dp went out and got very drunk. At 4.00 in the morning he decided to use our bedroom as a toilet and had a wee! He obviously didn't do it on purpose but it was against my chest of drawers and it went through and got half of my clothes wet. He then got back in bed and passed out. So at 4.00am I, at 29 weeks pregnant, end up putting towels down to soak it all up, pulling my clothes out to stop the rest getting affected and mopping up in the drawers.

I went out the next day and asked him to actually clean everything and wash my clothes. He did the clothes but not the cleaning. I ended up cleaning everything the following morning so I didn't have to keep walking through it and so the rest of my clothes didn't get affected by the smell.

He later apologised, acknowledged he should have done It and we moved on.

One week later he finally takes my clothes off the airer and leaves them on the bed for me to put away. I asked if he was going to do it and he said no for two reasons.

1. It was a mix of my normal clothes and maternity clothes so he wouldn't put them back in the right place.
   

1. He was doing other house work quickly before we went out.
   

AIBU to be annoyed that I've got to put the clothes away so I've been impacted by his drunk actions

[speakout]

Quite a catch you have there.

[RJnomore1]

I think you're focusing your wrath on the wrong thing if you're getting annoyed about him leaving your washing on the bed.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Yuk.

[Warhammerwidow89]

For not doing it without being asked. He's a twat.

For taking a week to sort it he's a twat.

But he's know doing other housework, left it on the bed for you to sort so he doesn't get it wrong. It's not like he's playin the PlayStation. I'd just fold the clothes and put them away.

Discuss his behaviour when drunk and solve it that way. If he can't handle his drink he should stop drinking, or stay elsewhere until sober.

[RJnomore1]

Ermmm...for getting so pissed he literally pissed all over his wife's belongings he's a twat.

Why are you so accepting of that op?

[Ski4130]

He peed on your clothes and didn't make an effort to clear it up? Not only are YNBU, but he also deserves to be sat down and told exactly what a revolting, pathetic, sorry excuse he is. That's properly disgusting.

[Cambionome]

Urinating in the bedroom against a chest of drawers and getting it on your clothes is beyond disgusting! You should have insisted on him cleaning it all himself, properly... now he thinks he can get away with not behaving like an adult and he's going to take full advantage of it.

Time for a very serious talk. Do not take any more of this shit.

[RiseToday]

He's an arsehole.

Nothing more to add.

[qazxc]

Yanbu.
He made the mess, he should have cleaned it up.
You should also have a chat about making sure it doesn't happen again.

[LouHotel]

That's revolting. What sort of apology did you get?

Did he iron your clothes after airing?

I would happily put my own clothes away but i would expect in return he spring cleaned the bathroom, kitchen and few other annoying housekeeping jobs like dusting all the skirting boards.

The fact you had to mop his piss is disgusting and i wouldnt be able to stop myself from shaming him to friends and family.

[LexieLulu]

Tell him it doesn't matter, put them away and you'll work out where everything is.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

What on earth?

Agree with the first poster who said your ire is entirely misdirected.

He pissed in your bedroom...?

I enjoyed many a night out on the lash back in the day. As did DH. Not once have either of us, nor anyone I know, urinated anywhere in a loo.

Who the fuck does that? He is an alcoholic tramp?

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Anywhere, except in a loo 😵

[Ijustlovefood]

What is he doing going out till 4 in the morning so pissed that he doesn't even know where the toilet is when you are pregnant OP? Not acceptable.

[SoupyNorman]

Fucking hell. You need to raise your standards, OP.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

I'm slightly incredulous to think you expect anyone to tell you YABU

[G1988]

Oh don't get me wrong, we rowed about it last weekend too but that got sorted when he apologised.

I see this as a continuation of last weeks row but he doesn't. If he'd done the cleaning last weekend I don't think I'd be SO annoyed about putting the clothes away.

I actually put the clothes away, then tried to talk to him about why I was upset by it and he just goes on about how condescending I am calling it disgusting etc.

He has actually been really dismissive of me being upset about this and keeps repeating his explanation for not putting the clothes away.

At no point has he acknowledged, whether he agrees with it or not, that he understands why him not putting he clothes away has upset me

[WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup]

Gross.

[KERALA1]

Tries to imagine scenario of dh peeing on my clothes whilst drunk. Fails. Would be like living with an alcoholic tramp. Ewww.

[JigglyTuff]

How disgusting

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Has he urinated outside the bathroom before?

I find it so odd that your gripe is with the clothes putting away, and not with the feral, drunk behaviour, that I have to wonder if the feral behaviour is par for the course.

[hidinginthenightgarden]

Fucking disgusting! He left you to clear his pee at 29 weeks pregnant? Even non pregnant I would be telling him to clean it or get out. That someone can get drunk enough they pee in their bedroom is vile.

[annandale]

It's been sorted when he apologised? ?

Christ alive.

How is he not cringing in SHAME?

[TheDowagerCuntess]

How is he not cringing in SHAME?

I know, right?

I feel fairly certain this is a semi-regular thing, because otherwise he'd be so utterly mortified.