Have name changed for this because it will be recognisable to a family member here. DS is 4 months old. Relationship with MIL is strained at best, I really do make a big effort with her for DH and now DSs sake. She feels her opinion is the only one and has never been challenged or had anyone question what she wants until me. I'm not rude to her, I just have learned not to let her dictate what will happen in every case (having learned the hard way).
Since she found out about DS she has been talking about the school he WILL be going to. Same one as DH and his brother. I said 'we'll see' and 'sure we(DH and myself) have ages to decide on schools' every time she brought it up. She bought him outfits in the school colours and wrapped them with cards to 'the new X School boy' before he was born. She shows no actual interest in him, had no desire to hold him and still talks about how much she hated having children herself so not to expect anything else from her.
DH would like DS to go to the school but has at least been open to looking at other options. It is a fee paying school and we would really struggle to pay for it.
ILs have now offered a certain amount of money to us each year to be used for DSs education. I am grateful for this offer however I am very wary as to what that means. If we use it for something else (for example private music/art/language lessons) will they want a say in what it's used for/be able to decide to stop if they don't approve. If we use it for the fees (like DH wants to) do they get a say in what subjects DS does since they're paying? However I don't want to seem ungrateful and say no but I think it's just being offered so we have no excuse for not using her choice of school.
Has anyone else had an offer like this and had it work out fine or know how to approach a conversation about it without causing offence? I really don't want to be horrible but I also don't want to sign up for them having a 'legitimate' say in every decision about it since it will be their money.
I am well aware it is ridiculous being worked up about education for a child so young but I really would appreciate anyone who has had similars thoughts.
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SchoolMoney · 28/10/2017 22:09
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