Uninvited to Halloween party :(

[Annoyedbaby]

Just wanted a few opinions on this really as I'm not sure what to do... fairly first world problem but it's got me really prickled

My lovely friend invited my 8 yr old DS to her village's Halloween party. Low key village hall affair, £5 entrance, the more the merrier kind of thing.
DS super excited, we've got the costume ...first time he's ever wanted to dress up... all good!

Then another mum from the village (and also a mum from my DS's school) then told my friend (pretty rudely apparently) that my DS can't go as only the children in the village are allowed to go. She knows my DS thinks he's going.

AIBU to think that this is mean, petty and unnecessary
What would you lovely peeps do?

[ChocolateButton15]

Is the event organiser on Facebook or is there a phone number for the event? Ask the event organiser directly. I can't see anyone turning a child away for not living in the right village though. Seems weird I would ignore the controlling mum and go anyway

[LevelHeading]

Take no notice off her and still go to the party with DS. What a nasty cow.

[PinkHeart5914]

You say it’s a more the merrier kind of thing? If that is how it’s being advertised? If so bloody take him anyway.

Who is this miserable woman that said he can’t go? Is he in charge?

[CoraPirbright]

What did your friend say to this other mum? And who died and made her queen?

[LevelHeading]

*of

[Nocabbageinmyeye]

Ignore her and let your ds go. Who the hell is the other mother? Queen of the village? Feck that, any Halloween party in our village Hall or any village Hall party I know is to raise money for something and definitely a more than merrier affair

[Annoyedbaby]

Thanks for the replies
I'm not sure it is just for children on the village. DS is there quite a bit and knows all the children there ....there's no Facebook group that I'm aware of?
But yes, that's what I'm thinking.... to just go anyway

[LucieLucie]

What a load of bollocks.

It’s a ticketed event, fundraising for the community I presume?

Community events can’t be exclusive, are they going to have bouncers on the door checking people’s postcodes as they arrive?!

Something here stinks... speak to your friend.

[Butterymuffin]

I would arrange to arrive with your friend, so as a party you're coming with someone who lives in the village.
Realistically what are they going to do, ask for utility bills or a school letter showing the correct address?

[troodiedoo]

I'd be very surprised if a ticketed Halloween party for kids has geographical restrictions.

[Therealslimshady1]

Wtf, who is this busybody with her "only people in the village" rule

Just go, together with your friend. What does your friend think?

[glenthebattleostrich]

I've organised kids parties for our village and whilst priority is given to local children if tickets are limited when it's a more the merrier thing all are welcome.

And there's no way we would turn a child away, that would be awful.

[Annoyedbaby]

As far as I know it'll be a group organisation effort. I'm guessing she's one of the organisers.
She's in the PTA at school

[wobblywonderwoman]

It is a fundraiser - of course they will let him in. Other person sounds interfering and rude.

[WreckTangled]

Our village has a. Christmas party only for children and grandchildren of the village.

Op I would go anyway poor ds, they won’t turn him away when you’ve paid.

[Witsender]

I would just go tbh

[Wellfuckmeinbothears]

What a mean old cow! Surely they’d be grateful for the extra money if they’re charging for entry (to cover costs I presume?). I’d take your DS anyway and just be prepared to stand your ground if meanie Mum says anything. If you’re not good with conflict (not that there should be any) and you’d rather avoid I’d grit my teeth and host a last minute party for DS and a few friends.

Hope your DS gets to go!

[Annoyedbaby]

Ive messaged my friend to see if she's ok with us going with her anyway... waiting to hear back. I really don't want to put her in a difficult position
It just seems to unbelievably petty minded

[Santawontbelong]

Tell her your fiver is as good as hers!!
And maybe smile to yourself PTA is short hand for PITA (pain in the arse)...

[TheDowagerCuntess]

Anyone trying to exclude children from a community fundraiser deserves to be blithely and roundly ignored!

[HollowCity]

Go in disguise/costume and pretend you're both somebody else.

[Annoyedbaby]

Thanks so much for all your replies.
I'm glad it's not just me