My dd is 4, so consent discussions focus around not having to kiss or hug people she doesn't want to, and that no one should touch her in intimate areas. This does backfire when I have to force her to let the dermatologist see her hands, body bum etc due to chronic eczema but by and large she is happy with these and exerts her own will as needed and people I have found have mostly respected her choices.
However, to my horror it occurred to me today that I have never discussed this with my dsd (13) or dss (14) and assumed that a recent sex Ed day at school it would be discussed. I broached it with her today and it wasn't mentioned. Her mum has never discussed it with her either it seems. That is obviously her mum's choice, but I did feel she is at an age where it ought to be discussed so we had a chat, discussed that it is never OK for anyone to force contact and whether they mean we'll or not if she is uncomfortable and says no and is ignored that is wrong and we would support her to take whatever action she felt necessary to defend herself. She is happy with the chat, asked some good questions and we also discussed that whilst she would never be at fault should she say no and someone forced it, there are things she can do to protect herself and not make herself vulnerable ie drinking to oblivion, drugs etc.
Dss is at a hobby today so we will chat later about his responsibilities for consent etc.
So my aibu is this - why the hell. Is this not part of the school curriculum on sex education? Surely in an age where past promescuity is allowed to be submitting court to damage the victim of rape and people think saying nothing is the same as consent because "they never said no" we should all be taking responsibility to educate our young people and that includes covering this in school?
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wheresthel1ght · 28/10/2017 12:20
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