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To not let my children sell their toys to each other?

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BlueA4Paper Sat 28-Oct-17 11:00:50

Dc are driving me mad today as dc1 wants to buy a large Lego model from dc3 for less than its value.

They've done this before and then the seller regrets it and wants you back, buyer doesn't want to sell it back, massive tantrums ensue.

I have put a blanket ban on any selling and/or swapping of toys.

Side issue is that dc1 takes advantage by not offering full value. Also the set he wants to sell was a recent present and I just don't think it's on to sell something you've just been given, having been hanging out for it for months.

I'm threatening consequences if they don't drop it. Aibu?

FenceSitter01 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:03:17

How old are they?

I'm threatening consequences - I love MN consequences, indulge me, what are they? grin

Appuskidu Sat 28-Oct-17 11:04:14

How old is DS3? Does he not want the set any more?

NotTheDuchessOfCambridge Sat 28-Oct-17 11:05:33

Can’t they just swap toys for the week?

DontKnowWhatToDo123 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:08:03

Why cant they share it?

my 2 have different lego models and play together and share them. They will build their own on their own initially, then any further breaking and rebuilding they will work together and share the building.

I personally wouldnt have any buying/selling of toys to each other... someone is bound to go back on their word but not want to give the money back and cause arguments. Maybe if they wont share they should "loan" the set to the sibling and say that if they break or lose any pieces they will be paying for spare parts out of their own money.

user1471548375 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:09:21

What do you mean full value? Like the equivalent cost when new? Or the second hand cost - what is it going for on eBay for example?

What is the right amount of time to keep something before getting rid/binning it/selling it on?

sonjadog Sat 28-Oct-17 11:10:40

Why can´t they just share?

WhooooAmI24601 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:10:41

Nope, no selling to one another (it's one of the very few schemes they've not come up with yet though). Just make them share unless it's a real treasured item then tell the other DC to ask for it from Santa/for their birthday.

silkpyjamasallday Sat 28-Oct-17 11:13:27

I am another who doesn't understand why they can't just share/take turns? How old are they?

BlueA4Paper Sat 28-Oct-17 11:15:12

Sharing would be fine - but that's not what they want. The set was a much coveted bday present just over a month ago - cost £110. Ds3 is 6. Ds1 is 10 and wants to pay him £70 for it. I just know that ds3 doesn't understand or appreciate the consequences of selling it (i.e. It won't be his anymore) and will regret it and then want it back. I let ds1 sell old toys on eBay because he does get it. But I wouldn't let him sell something he'd asked for for months and then got v recently.

Maybe I'm mean.

Consequences are as yet undefined. I just want them to stop pestering me - I'm ill today and feel like shit.

BlueA4Paper Sat 28-Oct-17 11:16:25

Ds1 says I'm the worst mum in the world and clearly if he had another mum they'd let him buy the set from his little bro. Argh.

LittleBearPad Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:02

I really don’t get the concept of buying / selling toys between siblings. Why can’t they share.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:23

Your DS1 is taking the piss, stick to the blanket ban on selling things.

Dobopdidoo1 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:42

So your dc1 wants to buy the Lego set in order to sell on eBay?

You need to teach your dc1 to stop harassing your dc3.

LondonGirl83 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:48

Don't let DC1 take advantage of a 6 year old and make them share or nothing at all.

sonjadog Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:51

I wouldn't allow this sale. As you say, it will backfire on DS3. You aren't mean, you are stopping big brother manipulate little brother.

LittleBearPad Sat 28-Oct-17 11:18:55

Tell DS1 if he wants it so much he can save the extra £40 and buy his own.

LittleBearPad Sat 28-Oct-17 11:20:23

But then I also wouldn’t let children buy and sell stuff on eBay.

carefreeeee Sat 28-Oct-17 11:22:51

Just say no and ask the child to whom it belongs if he will share or lend. Seems like a bad idea to allow this. Maybe when they are much older.

Quartz2208 Sat 28-Oct-17 11:23:22

DS3 is being bullied by his older brother who is then trying to manipulate you

Where would DS1 get £70 from anyway

Pickleypickles Sat 28-Oct-17 11:24:18

I agree DS1 is taking the piss and knows it. If he really wants it that bad he will save another £40 and buy it himself.
What on earth does a 6 yr old want with £70 anyway confused

BlueA4Paper Sat 28-Oct-17 11:24:40

Ds1 doesn't want to buy it to sell on eBay - he just wants it. I'm sticking to the ban.

BlueA4Paper Sat 28-Oct-17 11:25:59

Ds1 has saved the £70 from birthday and pocket money. Ds3 wants to buy a different and much lower valued Lego set.
It's not happening.

MyDcAreMarvel Sat 28-Oct-17 11:26:38

£110 Lego for a six year old? Is it too hard for them is that why they don't want it anymore ?

MrsOverTheRoad Sat 28-Oct-17 11:27:43

Make DS1 save up.

As to those saying why can't they share...why should a child share his birthday present? I don't share my makeup!

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