Am really worried about this so please be tough but kind.
My 4 year old started school this year.
Had first interview with teacher last week and apparently he is hitting other children frequently.
The teacher said this is happening regularly throughout the day.
I don’t know what to do. I’m really embarrassed that my child is causing so much upset.
He has lots of friends and cousins outside school and he’s not a hitter. He doesn’t hit his little sister and she can really get on his nerves.
We make sure he has lots of social interaction with other children outside of school and he is not a hitter then, if anything he’s quite shy and reserved.
We’ve spoken at length to him about how hitting hurts and we’ve even gone back to the toddler books of ‘hands are not for hitting.’
We’ve tried to be firm but understanding with him over it as didn’t want to make it a major issue. Now I feel it is becoming a big issue.
I asked the teacher today if ther had been any improvement, she said a little but he had to go into time out today for hitting.
What Can I do?
He does find the school work very hard and the teacher has said that he’s quite behind. This does not excuse his hitting. I’m just frantically trying to think of a reason.
Please help me.
AIBU to be so worried?
AIBU?
To be at a loss with my hitting 4 year old
Goldenboots11 · 27/10/2017 22:28
Goldenboots11 · 27/10/2017 22:28
Am really worried about this so please be tough but kind.
My 4 year old started school this year.
Had first interview with teacher last week and apparently he is hitting other children frequently.
The teacher said this is happening regularly throughout the day.
I don’t know what to do. I’m really embarrassed that my child is causing so much upset.
He has lots of friends and cousins outside school and he’s not a hitter. He doesn’t hit his little sister and she can really get on his nerves.
We make sure he has lots of social interaction with other children outside of school and he is not a hitter then, if anything he’s quite shy and reserved.
We’ve spoken at length to him about how hitting hurts and we’ve even gone back to the toddler books of ‘hands are not for hitting.’
We’ve tried to be firm but understanding with him over it as didn’t want to make it a major issue. Now I feel it is becoming a big issue.
I asked the teacher today if ther had been any improvement, she said a little but he had to go into time out today for hitting.
What Can I do?
He does find the school work very hard and the teacher has said that he’s quite behind. This does not excuse his hitting. I’m just frantically trying to think of a reason.
Please help me.
AIBU to be so worried?
Aquamarine1029 · 28/11/2023 15:55
He might not be ready for school. Boys especially can be immature for their age, as if a four year isn't immature enough. Perhaps school is just a bit too much for him this year.
Aquamarine1029 · 28/11/2023 15:55
He might not be ready for school. Boys especially can be immature for their age, as if a four year isn't immature enough. Perhaps school is just a bit too much for him this year.
Beezknees · 28/11/2023 15:55
Thread is from 2017.
Aquamarine1029 · 28/11/2023 15:55
He might not be ready for school. Boys especially can be immature for their age, as if a four year isn't immature enough. Perhaps school is just a bit too much for him this year.
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