DS is 6 nearly 7. His father left when he was 2. DS has seen his DF one day of nearly every weekend and a weekday evening since albeit supervised by my cousin or myself at DS insistence (DF wanted him on a non contact day and I refused so DF said next contact he wouldn't bring him home and DS got scared).
A year ago DS joined the beaver scouts and he loves it. He has been camping and activity days and so far we have juggled contact around so DS doesn't have to chose between DF and beavers. In August DF took DS away with friends (DS calls them nan and grandad) for 3 days. All ok but then DF wanted weekend contact. DS said no until last weekend when he went. Now DF want once a month weekend contact. In November, my BFF is getting married and DS is page boy, DS has remembrance parade and a trip to the firestation with beavers. (None of this disrupts the one day a weekend contact). This leaves one weekend for overnight contact which DF says he can't do. No reason given just he's busy. DS has said he wants to do the beaver things.
Weekend 1 is BFFs wedding
Weekend 2 is the remembrance parade
Weekend 3 is clear but DF is busy
Weekend 4 is the firestaion visit.
My options are.
- Pickup on Friday and bring home late saturday weekend 2
- Pickup on Saturday lunchtime and bring home Sunday weekend 4
Or
- Pickup Friday and bring home Sunday weekend 3
DF has said no, he wants DS from Fri to sun but not weekend 3.
WIBU to say these are the options, take them or leave them?
(Trying not to drip feed but may have gone a bit overboard. Sorry😁)