I'm going out of my mind. This has happened before.
She's got a seizure disorder and I know she's taken a couple tonight and sometimes she's very drowsy afterwards.
A neighbour who was round with her said she'd had a seizure, neighbour had helped her , phoned 999 as she was worried, and ambo/carers came out and checked mum over. Carers and neighbours left at 10 saying mum was sleeping on the couch. Neighbours said they'd pop back first thing.
My sister is severely autistic and won't sleep until she has spoken to her. Sister can't go to her as lives in residential care.
Her brother has spoken to me, says he can't go as has had a drink.
I'm 150 miles away and no trains or buses until 4am. I'm already booked on one as soon as my lecture finishes at 12 noon (pre planned).
I've phoned her carers, asked if they can go round as shes not answering the phone and I don't feel its safe her having had a seizure and now alone (my fault for moving out I think).
Anything could have happened, maybe she fell downstairs, maybe she's been sick, or poorly? Most likely she is just in a v deep sleep but I don't know and I can't know until I've spoken to her
Can the careers go round there? If not get the police to do a welfare check. It’s nit your fault- it’s hard when we have to care for family members, but you deserve a life too- there is other family there- your brother and professionals with the carers. It’s natural to feel guilty, but you’ve tried to keep her safe, and either the carers or the police will check on her xx
She's answered the phone - very post ictal and muddled. Have managed to direct her to phone her alarm again to make sure someone does come out. Yes her brother could have easily got a taxi.. Don't know why he wouldn't to be honest. V difficult situation. I've got a number for 3 neighbours but not sure they'd be happy to go round this late.. her mum lives just 5 mins away but wouldnt go either (alcoholism).
Firstly I just wanted to say please don't beat yourself up over moving away. I'm sure you're mum would want you to be happy and living a fulfilling life. It sounds as though she has a support network around her and it's most likely she is in a deep sleep recovering from a number of seizures. My mum had epilepsy so I understand where you're coming from. I stayed at home to study because it was just the two of us and I was too scared to leave her. However I do sometimes regret it now, and wonder how different my life could have been. My being at home didn't change the number of seizures she had or any accidents she had either. I couldn't be with her every minute of every day, and she wouldn't have wanted me to. Please try not to worry too much, I appreciate it's tough, love and hugs to you and your mum
It’s definitely not your fault! Could her brother not get a cab if he’s been drinking but is close by or is there anyone else that could go round? If not then I’d call the police I think. Better safe than sorry