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user1471558723 Thu 26-Oct-17 04:47:26

Neighbours of ours, who rarely acknowledge us, have sent us a letter requesting we give a donation of £250 to their son who is raising money to go on a school rugby tour of South Africa.

The parents are both professional people who earn good salaries in the public sector.

I must confess to feeling shocked and amazed at their cheek. I feel inclined to chuck their letter in the bin and forget all about it.
Would this be unreasonable?

Pregosaurus Thu 26-Oct-17 04:49:27

I never, ever donate if the funds are going to pay for someone’s holiday. I always refuse requests like this with a clear explanation - “happy to make a donation to charity, not happy to donate to the cost of your son’s rugby tour”.

SabineUndine Thu 26-Oct-17 04:52:45

I think they’re barking.

Mummyoflittledragon Thu 26-Oct-17 05:14:23

The bin is a good place.

Mamamagellanic Thu 26-Oct-17 05:16:41

I’d send a similar request back for a £250 donation to help fund your new penchant for Faberge eggs.

HashtagTired Thu 26-Oct-17 05:18:11

Do people really do this?? shock

RebootYourEngine Thu 26-Oct-17 05:21:44

If i was feeling generous i would give them £2.50 and assume £250 was a typo grin

CoffeeBreakIn5 Thu 26-Oct-17 05:50:08

YANBU, bin it and forget about it. Although something tells me your neighbours wont be forgetting about it!

Penners99 Thu 26-Oct-17 05:53:49

Extremely CFN

Handygarrottes Thu 26-Oct-17 05:57:02

Crikey. I would send a letter back saying you wish their son well with his trip but you already have specific charitable commitments allocated this year.

ZacharyQuack Thu 26-Oct-17 06:03:38

I'd reply "What a coincidence! I was just about to ask for a donation for my son's new bagpipes" (do you share a party wall?)

Ninabean17 Thu 26-Oct-17 06:07:06

I would be happy to donate directly to the charity, but not to what is essentially a holiday! Cf indeed. Have they asked your other neighbors?

pictish Thu 26-Oct-17 06:07:38

I would reply...just to make sure this is the last you'll hear of it.

"I will not be contributing to your son's rugby trip. Best, User."

ProfessorCat Thu 26-Oct-17 06:13:51


Shortstuff82 Thu 26-Oct-17 06:26:22

How bloody rude I wouldn’t have the cheek to ask ... just bin it

Ploppie4 Thu 26-Oct-17 06:31:41

How strange. Don’t respond and if they ask just say you’ve given to lots of charitable causes already this year so will pass

gamerwidow Thu 26-Oct-17 06:32:00

Ignore, they are chancing their arm but that’s how charity trips like this work. They will be expecting you and most of the other people they ask to say no but some will say yes so it’s worth the ask.
I wouldn’t be offended by it but I wouldn’t feel bad about not giving anything either.

SeaWitchly Thu 26-Oct-17 06:37:56

£250!!! shock shock

Where on earth do you live user, Knightsbridge or Kensington?

Where I am from it is more usual to get a begging letter requesting sponsorship of £5 or £10 or whatever you can afford...
I am truly gobsmacked that a neighbour, whom you are not even all that friendly with or close to, would suggest a £250 donation to send their son on a Rugby tour.

Cheeky fuckers!

TroysMammy Thu 26-Oct-17 06:49:57

Don't schools do fundraising for their rugby tours? I'm sure I've been asked to buy a raffle ticket in the past.

Collaborate Thu 26-Oct-17 06:54:09

Lots of reasons not to contribute.

1. You don’t really know them
2. It’s a preposterous amount
3. It’s for their son’s holiday

I’d just ignore it, but trot out the above if they ask, and say you thought they’d sent it to you in error, as who the fuck asks neighbours for £250 for that?

SemiNormal Thu 26-Oct-17 07:26:48

Fucking hell £250! What a damned cheek. Surely he should be out earning that money by whatever means possible - we have people bag packing in our local supermarket for things like this. He could also be offering his services ie raking leaves, washing cars to raise some money.

OstentatiousWanking Thu 26-Oct-17 08:31:08

Honestly the World's gone mad.
In my day we used to ask the neighbours to sponsor use 50p to walk round the playground or fill up a matchbox with tat.

OstentatiousWanking Thu 26-Oct-17 08:31:34

Us not use.

EvilDemonRaspberryOverlord Thu 26-Oct-17 08:49:03

If the lad wants to do a rugby your, he can work for it like others, such as bag packing, etc.

Asking for such a donation, even if it were a typo, just smacks of entitlement in expecting others to fund it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 26-Oct-17 08:50:44

That's a lot of money. I'd say that sort of figure isn't in my budget, or anywhere near. Or just ignore it, until they bought it up.

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