Was watching a programme the other day about people (men and women) who are choosing to be childfree. Some of them, most I think, have either gone through sterilisation/vasectomy in order to ensure they will not get or make anyone else pregnant, or were trying to do so.
I often see it suggested on here, particularly for men, that if they are sure they don't want children they should take responsibility for their own fertility and have a vasectomy. Fair enough. Except the two men featured in the programme had been trying pretty hard and not gotten very far - 1 guy was 29 and had been trying for 11 years! The other was 30, so not exactly teenagers.
Guy 1 during the duration did eventually get his vasectomy. I just found the doctor's questions in the pre-op consultation quite intrusive and rude. He was asking the guy if his wife knew about it, if she was in agreement, and if he was doing it behind her back/with her consent! I can't imagine it being ok for them to ask a woman those questions, but either way it is his body, what business is it of the doctors?! Would he have refused to do it if he said his wife didn't know or didn't agree?
I felt really sorry for the Guy 2 too, he was 30 and had Aspergers - he was so paranoid and stressed about getting someone pregnant he found it really hard to get into a relationship, he even had nightmares about it. In the end the doctor wouldn't do it because he wasn't in a relationship
Aibu to think this is unfair and the doctors were out of order?
Obvs I realise that it can be very difficult to get sterilised at all, man or woman, but at least a vasectomy is, in theory, reversible.
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SharkiraSharkira · 25/10/2017 20:34
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