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AIBU to expect my neighbours to act like adults?

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weirdneighbours2017 Wed 25-Oct-17 19:27:23

Regular poster, but changed name to guarantee anonymity

We have lived in our house for the past 6 years in a reasonably affluent area, however our immediate neighbours are what I can only describe as "deprived". As far as we're aware, neither the man or woman has ever worked (atleast for aslong as we've known them!) and there is the usual bad language, loud music, dodgy dealings etc.

A few years ago we had issues with them because their dogs kept getting into our front garden, and we built a brick wall separating the properties which of course they didn't like. Since then we have had general passive aggressive behaviours, dirty looks, comments etc from them. But we have also had another strange occurrence...

For the past couple of years we have randomly found food left in our gardens, yes, you read that right, FOOD. Whole heads of cabbage, chills, peppers, whole batons of bread and once, even a whole fish! Ok, we live on the coast in Whitby, but I've never heard of fish being dropped by gulls etc. It is quite obviously being chucked over the back fence into our garden, and sometimes on top of our garage roof.

This usually stops during the summer but starts again during the darker months. On cue, it has started again this week! Have any of you ever experienced anything as weird as this? If so, what did you do? We can't prove it is them outright, as it happens at night or when we are out.

AIBU to expect my neighbours to act like adults?

fuzzyfozzy Wed 25-Oct-17 19:31:09


LostSight Wed 25-Oct-17 19:33:57

We used to get glass bottles thrown over our fence during parties. One landed on the roof one night and smashed. Food sounds annoying, but at least it’s not dangerous.

Mintylizzy9 Wed 25-Oct-17 19:43:17

My neighbours go through phases of this also, usually after a BBQ I can wake up to beer cans and half eaten food. More recently their kids were chucking over half eaten sweets.

Every last thing gets chucked right back over the fence or one on particular occasion when I'd really had enough after loads came over after a BBQ I stacked it up against their front door with the half full beer cans on top of the pile so the first person put that particular morning got wet feet! It really died down after that and is now only very occasionally but I chuck it back! It's so anti social and disgusting for a while I had to do a garden sweep before letting my toddler into the garden angry

weirdneighbours2017 Wed 25-Oct-17 19:44:42

fuzzy We don't want them kicking off if we put cameras off - they have a history of over-reacting and criminal records (can't be too specific).

Allthebestnamesareused Wed 25-Oct-17 19:49:49

How do your "deprived" "criminal" "unemployed" neighbours (with the usual bad language and dodgy dealings) manage to live in your affluent area without a job?

Just asking?

PoisonousSmurf Wed 25-Oct-17 19:50:03

Get a wildlife camera. It's camouflaged, runs on batteries (lasts for weeks) and can see in the dark. It can record video as well.

AndInShortIWasAfraid Wed 25-Oct-17 19:53:28

Yanbu. We have similar neighbours. Before we built a back fence they thought it was fine to use our garden to store their rubbish bags full of food scraps. They weren't pleased when we paid hundreds of pounds to erect the fence to be able to use our garden again so starting chucking over whole bits of food. They don't cook so it's chicken nuggets and other crap.

We've called their housing officer who is about as useful as a chocolate fireguard. We bought this house to raise children in and now have to sell and move. if you can't put up CCTV I'm not sure what can be done, you have my sympathies.

Tapandgo Wed 25-Oct-17 22:50:03

Wildlife camera sounds like a great suggestion

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