Brace yourselves....it's a long one.
BACK STORY - Basically myself and my Sister have very little contact. A few years ago her children were taken into the care of their Father - we do not know the reasoning behind it and the Father has never really said either. We will call the children A & B.
Yesterday I received a letter from the "Multi Agency Referral and Assessment Team". What I found strange first off was that it didn't have my full name...let's say for instance my name is Natasha...it said Tasha and also had my maiden surname and my married surname. SO basically Tasha Smith/Jones.
When I opened the letter it said they had received information about one of my children (I have three) and could I contact them as soon as possible. It had the deadline as Tuesday 24/10/2017 at 12pm. I got the letter at about 11am and called them straight away. I felt sick wondering what the hell was going on.
When they answered they asked for the child's date of birth that the letter concerned and I said I didn't know which child it was about. They then asked for the eldest date of birth so I gave it to them. They replied with "Oh I sent the letter...that was quick...I only sent it yesterday....you're A & B's Mum is that right?". I explained that I wasn't and was A & B's Auntie. At this point the lady started panicking and said she had the wrong information. I told her the name of my Sister and said I could get hold of her on FB but didn't have any further information. I sent my sister the details and that was that. She spoke to them and that side of it isn't relevant to this post.
Today, I had a message out of the blue from same sister saying "Did you take an overdose and go into A&E in December 2013?". I did and I hadn't wanted anyone to know. There was only my Husband and Mother In Law who knew so how the hell could she have got this info? I said it wasn't me and asked why she had asked. She said that in April 2014 (when she had a third child with someone else), they had to do a Pre-Birth Assessment. She said written in this was that she had taken an overdose in December 2013 and she had to dispute it and get a Social Worker to confirm they had got their information wrong.
Now that she knows they had A & B's Mum as me, they have basically done a Pre-Birth Assessment on my information which they sent to her back then. So she knows that the information in this report related to me and not her and has details of an overdose I took many years ago which I didn't want anyone to know about.
How would you go about complaining? Solicitor? Council? I just don't know where to start and now my head is in bits as I have been on Anti-depressants since the overdose.
Sorry for the long post and please be kind.
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BringMeCoffee · 25/10/2017 15:39
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