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in thinking that bringing an iPad to a sleepover is a bit rude?

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ProofBy1nduction Wed 25-Oct-17 08:57:35

My DD (9) is having a few friends for a sleepover for her birthday next week.

The last time we did this (about 6 months ago) both her friends brought their iPads with them.

Aside from the fact I then have no idea what they are watching on them (they both wanted to take them to bed with them), I can't help feeling it is a bit rude to let your child take a device like this to someone elses house.

It's almost like assuming they will be bored.

It's probably just me though! Does anyone else feel like this?

driveninsanebythehubby Thu 26-Oct-17 16:50:38

Whenever my boys have friends for sleepovers, I make a point of letting the parent know that it was fine to send a device, because ds was looking forward to playing Minecraft/Roblox etc with them! I don’t see the issue if they’re playing together - each doing independent activities is different.

And in response to the person above who said those that think it’s ok are obviously the ones to get their phones out at a dinner party - wrong! I won’t even get my phone out if we’re having a lazy dinner on the sofa! I just don’t see the issue with kids having their device if they want them. My middle son and his close friend make all sorts of YouTube videos together - some even half amusing! If they didn’t bring the iPads, I wouldn’t see that creativity.

Happydoingitjusttheonce Fri 27-Oct-17 19:04:42

Scabbersley if that was directed at me then my son grew up socialising without devices as well
as with. Socialising face to face is vital. I didn’t suggest it wasn’t. My son has a broader social circle because of digital devices, so he regularly skypes/FaceTimes kids in other countries he’s got to know through his sport. And he’d have never got to know them without the internet. I had to use blue airmail paper to have contact with a pen pal. Embrace it.

HeebieJeebies456 Fri 27-Oct-17 20:04:18

Good idea Peetle - maybe I will turn off the WiFi (DH may have a heart attack though)

Even better, just search for their ipads on your 'connected to wifi' list and block their internet access - either between certain times or completely.
That way the adults in the house don't have to be inconvenienced.....

nellieellie Fri 27-Oct-17 20:21:46

I would just say sorry, my kids don’t have access to an iPad. I’d let them use it for maybe half hour as long as they were in my sight and I knew what they were doing. I’ve confiscated a phone off a friend of my 12 year old, so a 9 yr old with an iPad. Ugh!

Flippingecktucker Fri 27-Oct-17 20:25:24

Rude?! Ffs. Ridiculous.

Farontothemaddingcrowd Fri 27-Oct-17 20:26:31

I wouldn't find that rude at all.

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