Backstory:
Their birthdays are 9 days apart. We're both a bit skint atm. Neither is having an expensive arranged party (leisure centre/soft play/£200 session in hell etc) but both will be having family parties with GPs and cousins.
DH and I are also taking her to a huge tourist attraction that she will LOVE on her birthday.
A very good friend and I have discussed swapping presents for our STB3yos.
We've said that instead of buying each other's child a token gift for the sake of it, DF and I decided that we will take our DC out for an exciting day trip (to somewhere the girls haven't been before, not like a soft play or swimming...)
I told DH this tonight and he seemed flabbergasted saying it was weird (twice) and strange (twice) and that it wasn't the kids' fault that we (all 4 parents) were having to be careful with money...
And that we should really swap gifts so that DD and DF's DD get a little present from someone who isn't a family member.
I just thought it had been a really nice idea to do something with her friend and that they'd love it, more likely remember it much more than a token book/toy that will invariably become clutter and chucked out eventually.
Now I feel quite deflated and I have taken an inference (possibly unfairly) that I'm somehow doing my DD out of something...
Obviously we have the money to spend a few quid on each other's child buy isn't the thought of going to spend time and ding something exciting better than just exchanging a small gift for the sake of having a gift?
If IABU then I need to apologise to DH as I've kind of stropped off to bed....
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to not exchange birthday presents for my child and DF's child?
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DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 24/10/2017 22:26
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