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Not wanting to get a mortgage if we aren't settling down?

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phoeberosemoores Tue 24-Oct-17 11:08:15

So for a while me and my OH have been looking to move out. We've been to view some stunning new builds near us and have fallen in love with one. Both were so excited to finally have a house as we currently live in staff accommodation, in a small and not very nice flat.

My issue is he just dropped this morning about how he hopes a job doesn't come up within our company too far away as it'll make him sad to leave our house as it looks like it's going to be amazing. Leaving me (i think) understandably angry.

I understand that if a promotion comes up at a different location he might want to take it, we have over 100 locations across the U.K. and sometimes the best jobs means moving.. but that's why we weren't moving out. We pay £100 a month all in, bills, council tax everything with staff accom, and it helps him progress with his career. So I don't moan about the dingy flat, I don't complain about wanting my OWN home because although I like my job, it's not a career and I'm more fussed on saving up to start my family soon (different story altogether) but I prioritise his career cause it is what's best for us both in the long run

But why suggest moving out? Why talk about settling down here? Take me to house viewings.. let me fall in love with a house and then say that if a job comes up we will move back into staff accom and rent it out.. if we get a house I want to settle down, start out family, and he agreed to that but with the condition it all can move if he does??

AIBU? I do support his career but I want my home to be my home... long term...

scottishdiem Tue 24-Oct-17 11:22:23

You'll never move then if you only want a house for the long term and he is mindful of future career moves. It wasnt him saying there was a job he was going to apply for though, just that it might happen.

You both need to be on the same page. You want to put down roots, he wants to earn more money. These may not be compatible.

Creambun2 Tue 24-Oct-17 11:25:00

What jobs offer an all in flat for £100 a month?

phoeberosemoores Tue 24-Oct-17 11:47:06

Sorry he is actively looking for a promotion next year, and wants to take one regardless of location. He wants to buy the house in the hopes a promotion comes up near here, but if it doesn't he'll expect to move and I won't want to leave a house I've just made a home.

Holiday resorts have staff apartments on site, £100 a month all in. It's a great way to save up enough to settle down, but they are small and dingy and don't feel like a home..

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