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To refuse lift to smoker because she smells?

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florapearl Mon 23-Oct-17 13:38:57

Obviously not as blunt as that but she lights up just before getting in the car and it stinks. So AIBU to tell her to get the bus if she can't wait?

Nandoshoes Mon 23-Oct-17 13:40:14

Why are you giving her a lift anyway ?

More backstory please

However I smoke very few and I hate the smell of smokers. They stink so your probably not.

gunsandbanjos Mon 23-Oct-17 13:41:35


Aquamarine1029 Mon 23-Oct-17 13:45:17

YANBU. The smell of smoke is disgusting and it clings to everything. She wouldn't be sitting in my car.

MonkeyJumping Mon 23-Oct-17 13:47:07


I think you can say politely "I'm sorry, I don't give lifts to smokers because the smell clings to the seat fabric"

Be warned she will probably not believe she smells of smoke because smokers can't smell it as well as non smokers can.

Seniorcitizen1 Mon 23-Oct-17 13:47:57

I dont let smokers in my car ever - they just stink. Make her get the bus

londonrach Mon 23-Oct-17 13:50:24

Yanbu. I wouldnt. The smell sticks around

LurkingHusband Mon 23-Oct-17 13:50:25

Obviously not as blunt as that

er, why not ?

CherieBabySpliffUp Mon 23-Oct-17 13:50:42


reflexfaith Mon 23-Oct-17 13:50:44

Your wheelz
Your rulez


Ttbb Mon 23-Oct-17 13:51:42

YANBU, why would you be obliged to give her a life anyway?

Ohmyfuck Mon 23-Oct-17 13:56:25

YANBU. Once she gets out, the smell will linger. It's foul.

musicform Mon 23-Oct-17 13:57:12

YANBU. I have a friend who smokes and she has been in my new car twice and I haven't got the heart to say no [though I might put bin bags down if there is a next time]

LurkingHusband Mon 23-Oct-17 14:01:04

We - once - gave DS friend a lift, not realising he smoked. He didn't light up in the car, but his coat stank.

That was 6 months ago. Every so often (especially if it's been very sunny) I can still catch a whiff of smoke.

MinorRSole Mon 23-Oct-17 14:01:12

Yabu and I’m surprised by the responses. Your friend vs a smell? Just have the windows open and buy an air freshener. It’s not like she’s smoking in your car (which would be unacceptable)

splendidisolation Mon 23-Oct-17 14:03:37

Unreasonable as it gets. And precious. And mean.

Jaxhog Mon 23-Oct-17 14:05:36

YANBU. I'm with the other non smokers. Smoke lingers. If you still want to give her a lift, put down a bin bag and tell her not to smoke just before she gets in your car. It's this last thing that is particularly antisocial.

MyBrilliantDisguise Mon 23-Oct-17 14:06:22

You think she should give the lift, splendidisolation? Even with your username?

Bubblebubblepop Mon 23-Oct-17 14:06:32

Don't tell her she smells, it's unkind and quite spiteful. Just make up and excuse as to why you can't give her a lift

diddl Mon 23-Oct-17 14:06:43

Are you saying that she smokes in your car or will have had one just before she gets in?

Either way it would be a no for me-smelly clothes & hair/confined space-yuk!

MonkeyJumping Mon 23-Oct-17 14:07:00

Smokers always seem to be in denial about how much they smell and how much the smell lingers on.

Opening windows won't help. Buying an air freshener may or may not mask the smell, but is another smell the OP may not want in her car.

victoire1208 Mon 23-Oct-17 14:09:28

God you all sound like a barrel of laughs. I'd rather have a car ride with a fag ash Lil than a precious pearl clutcher.

emmyrose2000 Mon 23-Oct-17 14:09:45

I don't allow smokers in my cars or my home. Nor will I sit next to one in a public place.

theymademejoin Mon 23-Oct-17 14:09:59

Politely asking that they don't light up before getting in the car is perfectly reasonable. My sister and niece know not to smoke for at least 10 minutes before getting in my car and they smoke rollies which aren't anywhere near as smelly as normal cigarettes.

splendidisolation Mon 23-Oct-17 14:10:40

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