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AIBU - 'I'm having a fab time' photos.

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Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 08:50:05

People that are desperate for you to think that they have such a great life. If they're out, we all know about it. Tagged in lots of fab places, selfies with lots of fun looking people, pictures of their cocktails with a beautiful sunset behind it.
We went out drinking this weekend with a bunch of couples and whilst it was nice to be out (child free) it wasn't the best day ever (early bar). We had some laughs, but when I looked at the pics that I was inundated with, I thought 'was I at the same place as these people?'
Am I getting old? Am I a complete mardy arse for thinking this way? Or was I so smashed that I didn't realise that I was having so much fun?
I hope I'm not past it???!!! Tell me I'm not alone.

2014newme Mon 23-Oct-17 08:51:36

What's early bar?

Welwyncitydweller Mon 23-Oct-17 08:52:21

I have a friend who lives an insta life, but only on insta. It’s sad

Henrythehoover Mon 23-Oct-17 08:54:20

If you are then I am too. I think it's sad really as all this fake "we are having such a great time" stuff makes real life seem really drab and like your missing out on something. People seem so tied up with giving the impression of having fun that they don't enjoy the moment anymore. I've been out with people where they spend half the time looking at their phones and taking pictures that it's been a boring time but from their Instagram or fb you would think completely different. It's just sad!

Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 08:57:43

2014 - early start. Met early afternoon, rather than the evening x

dinosaursandtea Mon 23-Oct-17 09:01:44

Why does it matter to you what other people are posting? Maybe they really did have a good time! Unless anyone outright lied or photoshopped it all, I wouldn’t dwell on it.

BillywilliamV Mon 23-Oct-17 09:02:02

Have lots of fab time photos in frames in my hall, does that count?

Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 09:02:19

Thank God it's not just me! It all seems too forced. I just wanted to relax, have a drink and a laugh.

BalloonSlayer Mon 23-Oct-17 09:04:09

Ha! I was out with some friends the other day and when someone's food arrives, out comes someone else's phone and Click! It wasn't even her dinner.

It was for Facrook I guess but why anyone would care what their Facebook friend's friend had for tea is entirely beyond me.

Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 09:04:42

Billy - so have I! I've got some cracking photos of the family. Maybe I'm just as bad.

Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 09:06:45

Balloon - isn't that the pits? I'd rather eat my food hot than waste precious minutes getting the perfect pic. I've even watched people rearrange their plate before snapping away. WTAF??

Tazmum01 Mon 23-Oct-17 09:09:14

Dinosaur - you're right, I shouldn't get wound up. This incident annoyed me, because it WAS fake. We weren't having the great time that the pics said we did. But it's not the end of the world, I know.

FinallyHere Mon 23-Oct-17 09:10:41

Anytime lots of photos appear 'during' an event, I take it to be a sign that not much is happening so they are filling up the time with photos, doesn't everyone?

Trills Mon 23-Oct-17 09:11:42

Do you expect people to take and share pictures when they are having a shit time?

NashvilleQueen Mon 23-Oct-17 09:15:28

Maybe they are having a lovely time? Maybe their idea of what is worthy of a photo is different to yours?

Social media is probably at saturation point I agree but still it’s a harmless photo of someone (a friend even) smiling with a cocktail and a sunset. Scroll past if you don’t like. Personally I prefer those than the endless ‘I’m going to see how many of my so-called friends are decent people rather than heartless twats who won’t comment amen at this google images photo of a sick child in hospital for click bait purposes ‘

arethereanyleftatall Mon 23-Oct-17 09:17:40

Yanbu.
Sometimes I think how much fb fun you seem to have is inversely proportional to the reality

charmedrose Mon 23-Oct-17 09:18:57

I saw a woman in the pub with a baby one lunch time. The baby was in a high chair getting grumpy because she kept breaking off from feeding him while she kept trying to get the perfect shot of him with his face plastered with food. I couldn't believe how many she took of him. shock

Her "friends" on facebook getting treated to those delightful shots were far more important to her than letting her baby enjoy his dinner.

acornsandnuts Mon 23-Oct-17 09:19:26

I think the point is trills they werent having the best time but the photos conveyed they were.

I think wonder if those who post endlessly actually think those who don’t are sitting at home in their bed socks?

GirlsonFilm Mon 23-Oct-17 09:20:35

I have unfriended people for this. I know that their real life is as dull as mine (FT working Mum) but if you read their FB page you'd think that they had it all, and more besides!

Trills Mon 23-Oct-17 09:20:45

Weren't they having a nice time? It sounds like they were, to me.

victoire1208 Mon 23-Oct-17 09:23:02

It's undeniably tacky and indicative of a mass narcissism epidemic.

AnUtterIdiot Mon 23-Oct-17 09:23:24

I'm not a big taker of photos but I tend to take them and share them when I'm having a nice time just like we did before the Internet. I'm not trying to con people into thinking my life's never difficult. I do feel a bit like if people aren't complaining about fake happy photos they're complaining about passive aggressive messages or sad messages. It's a noticeboard. People stick what they want on it. All you have to do is remember that nobody's documenting every single moment of their day or week on FB.

dangerrabbit Mon 23-Oct-17 09:23:59

OP - YANBU. Hate all this fake stuff.

AnUtterIdiot Mon 23-Oct-17 09:24:25

The food photos ARE a bit annoying, although I like baking so I do like photos of my friends' cakes.

brasty Mon 23-Oct-17 09:25:29

I think you are curmudgeonly. Some people are trying to pretend they have a better life than they have, but most people are just sharing photos on face book with others who were actually there. I don't do this, but do get friends who share photos with all of us who were at a night out. Its nice to have photos of friends.

And some people who were at your night out may have had a very fun night out, even if you didn't enjoy it much.

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