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To wonder why you wouldn't make a small effort to cover up whilst feeding?

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BonkToTheFinish Sun 22-Oct-17 17:35:24

Not in your own home or whatever else that is within comfort zone for you.

I’m talking restraunts, places to eat etc etc

I don’t really understand it. A good friend of mine liked a picture that I came across today titled “Not even trying to cover up in public anymore, most natural thing ever 👌❤️”

Picture is of said woman in a bit swankier than average place to eat, boob completely out without thought and baby isn’t covering it at all really.

You do NOT NOT NOT have to cover a baby’s head to be discrete. You don’t even have to wear specialist clothing, it’s very easy to be discrete without having to have the whole breast completely on show.

I wouldn’t just feed DS with a whole boob out, it isn’t necessary and although BF is natural, some people do feel uncomfortable about breasts and aren’t comfortable seeing one completely on show - It doesn’t mean they’d say anything and that’s because they’re polite.

Is it really necessary to have whole boob out like that? AIBU?

I can’t say I’ve seen many people doing it, SIL was feeding her newborn DS a few weeks back and I was shocked she was feeding. I couldn’t actually tell, and baby has a small latch issue.

I’ve only ever seen one other person in public being a bit too in your face about it. She had the whole thing out and wasn’t too bothered regarding her DC being on there etc. She had it out before he was even out of the pram from waking up. The breast was directing me in life, so it seemed, by its swinging grin

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower Sun 22-Oct-17 17:36:34

Oh dear

hesterton Sun 22-Oct-17 17:37:15

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AllTheWittyNamesAreGone Sun 22-Oct-17 17:37:50

Yes you are buying.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone Sun 22-Oct-17 17:38:11

*bu not buying

silverbell64 Sun 22-Oct-17 17:38:12

I personally like a bit of decorum in all situations. Yes of course when breastfeeding, people should do it discreetly in public places.

Fekko Sun 22-Oct-17 17:38:46

Horses for courses I suppose. It wasn't for me - I'm not a 'let it all hang out' or a 'lookit meeeeee - I have a bay-beeeeeee!' kind of person.

JesusTapdancingChrist Sun 22-Oct-17 17:38:50

I'll just leave this here.

Ttbb Sun 22-Oct-17 17:39:13

But why? It's not like any normal people (excludes perves and prudes obv) would be looking.

Whambarsarentasfizzyastheywere Sun 22-Oct-17 17:39:46

It's only a boob being used for the very thing it was designed to do confused

JesusTapdancingChrist Sun 22-Oct-17 17:39:46

FFS.

BarbaraofSevillle Sun 22-Oct-17 17:39:55

YANBU. The baby needed to be wearing one of these:

Fucky Sun 22-Oct-17 17:40:44

Does it really matter? Really?

BonkToTheFinish Sun 22-Oct-17 17:40:47

I don’t understand it, I’m not speaking of covering the child or whatever else.

It’s simply being a bit discrete about how much you have on show because it does make some people a little uncomfortable.

I wouldn’t have an issue getting the whole thing out in public, wouldn’t embarrass me one bit. But I KNOW not everyone is comfortable with that and I’m happy to make a small effort to consider other people too. It doesn’t take any effort at all really.

Santawontbelong Sun 22-Oct-17 17:40:48

Personal choice.
Mine being I fed numerous dc anywhere they needed feeding but for my own preference never ever flashed a breast. .
Mine are to me private. .
They aren't kept hidden because I am ashamed of the grand job they did of providing for my dc, or because of any other reason, just because to me they are private!!

NoCryLilSoftSoft Sun 22-Oct-17 17:41:23

Show us the picture OP?

NicolasFlamel Sun 22-Oct-17 17:41:26

I see more breast when I'm browsing instagram or "celeb" news than when I see women breastfeeding. Do you feel as uncomfortable with tiny triangle bikini tops or people in sheer nipple exposing tops? Just curious..
It's very strange that we're conditioned to feel awkward about others using their breasts in a natural way but have become totally desensitised to them being out in any other context.

BarbaraofSevillle Sun 22-Oct-17 17:41:31

Love it jesus. That baby is clearly thinking 'WTF mother'.

DaisyAdair Sun 22-Oct-17 17:41:47

OP, I don't think you know the meaning of 'discrete' confused

Whambarsarentasfizzyastheywere Sun 22-Oct-17 17:42:42

If other people aren't comfortable with a baby being fed they can look away. It's up to them to cater to their attitudes because it's their issue.

WittgensteinsBunny Sun 22-Oct-17 17:42:44

Yep, YABU.

NoCryLilSoftSoft Sun 22-Oct-17 17:43:19

it does make some people a little uncomfortable.

You know what will make people less uncomfortable with it? Seeing it more. Not less.

BonkToTheFinish Sun 22-Oct-17 17:43:19

Mine being I fed numerous dc anywhere they needed feeding but for my own preference never ever flashed a breast. .
Mine are to me private. .
They aren't kept hidden because I am ashamed of the grand job they did of providing for my dc, or because of any other reason, just because to me they are private!!

I’m the opposite, I don’t really care who sees them personally, but I don’t have them on show because some people that aren’t me see them as private.

I don’t see why I shouldn’t consider anyone else. Yes they’re my breasts, that’s fine. I don’t feel bothered who sees them. But I know some people don’t particularly like it/want it in eye line and so I take this into consideration despite me being here nor there about others having a look

Madbum Sun 22-Oct-17 17:43:48

Stop looking at women breast feeding it’s weird. You can’t be offended by a bag of milk if you stop staring at it, unless you like looking at it?...

VladmirsPoutine Sun 22-Oct-17 17:44:35

Was she ostentatiously breastfeeding OP?

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