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My MIL despite living 15 min drive away is always saying she wants to stay round

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Mmmmmmmchips Sat 21-Oct-17 14:43:19

I get her or FIL don't drive, but we always drop them.

We have a 3 bed house.
The 2nd bedroom is my DS who is 7 and has a extendable Ikea bed, and the 3rd bedroom is a small box room where we have our clothes.
She would basically be sleeping in our bed and we'd have to sleep on a blow up mattress on DSs floor.
She has a 4 bedroom house BTW

user1499333856 Sat 21-Oct-17 14:44:21

Nope. Home she goes.

Good luck! flowers

DO3271 Sat 21-Oct-17 14:45:29

Thats just seems like its making work for you. Can you stay at hers? I get its nice not to have to get up and go home sometimes but surely having family to stay is when they live far away and it makes their journey worthwhile.

fairypuff Sat 21-Oct-17 14:46:03

Offer her the blow up bed? I wouldn't be giving up my bed if the offer of a lift home was turned down. If she's that desperate to stay she will take the blow up option.

Twitchingdog Sat 21-Oct-17 14:49:19

If she is baby sitting let her stay otherwise. If you happy not to drink when she us round drop her home

HopeAndJoy16 Sat 21-Oct-17 14:50:28

No deal. It's not at all practical. A 15 min drive is no reason at all for them to have to stay over.
My own parents and in laws have to stay elsewhere now we've got a child (we live in a 2 bed), and they all have a journey of hours not minutes. There's just no room in this inn! But they respect our need for space and it works for us all.

Discotits Sat 21-Oct-17 14:52:12

Why does she want to stay round do you think?

YANBU in those circumstances.

Aquamarine1029 Sat 21-Oct-17 14:53:59

Good god, no. You let that nonsense start and you'll never be rid of her. Tell your DH to deal with her and set her straight.

lilly0 Sat 21-Oct-17 15:00:03

YANBU put your foot down op x

LakieLady Sat 21-Oct-17 15:02:51

Surely she knows you don't have a spare bed? Where does she expect to sleep (or expect all of you to sleep, perhaps)?

I'm curious as to why she wants to stay over, tbh. But then I love my own bed, and sleeping in anyone else's is never as nice.

Santawontbelong Sat 21-Oct-17 15:05:16

You need to encourage her to get a ddog. Great excuse to get her back home!!

Fluffyears Sat 21-Oct-17 15:06:46

Why does she get your bed? No she either goes home or sleeps on the blow up.

WitchesHatRim Sat 21-Oct-17 15:07:41

Depends on her reasons for staying I guess.

Just popping round and wanting to stay, no.

Baby sitting for you and you don't get back until late, yes.

LaurieFairyCake Sat 21-Oct-17 15:07:43

I wouldn’t give up my bed for anyone. Find it really ‘icky’.

MrTrebus Sat 21-Oct-17 15:08:54

Maybe she doesn't like her husband.

raisinsarenottheonlyfruit Sat 21-Oct-17 15:09:55

I wouldn’t give up my bed for anyone. Find it really ‘icky’.

Do you sleep in hotels or holiday homes?

LaurieFairyCake Sat 21-Oct-17 15:12:02

Yes, I do - that’s someone else’s bed.

It’s MY bed I don’t want others to sleep in.

ThumbWitchesAbroad Sat 21-Oct-17 15:12:17

I agree - if she's that desperate to stay round yours, give her the blow up bed! You don't want to encourage her by giving her your bed, that would be daft!

teaandtoast Sat 21-Oct-17 15:14:02

Does she want to move in?

Mmmmmmmchips Sat 21-Oct-17 15:14:20

No babysitting and she would stay round with FIL

No one point talking to DH- he wants to build a room over the garage so they can come stay round!

We have stayed there for a long period so I'm not going back

I'm not sure what they would get from staying round apart from a free breakfast!

diddl Sat 21-Oct-17 15:14:41

When does she say this?

After babysitting-if so could your son stay at theirs?

If they've stayed late-so take the back at 8/9 whatever?

Mmmmmmmchips Sat 21-Oct-17 15:16:14

Tea I wouldn't at all be surprised

Mmmmmmmchips Sat 21-Oct-17 15:17:23

I'd be surprised if they have ever left before 10

GreenTulips Sat 21-Oct-17 15:20:29

Easy solution

You and DS in your bed
DH on the blow up
Parents in DS room

DH in charge of changing beds, food shop and cooking

It won't last long!!

Mmmmmmmchips Sat 21-Oct-17 15:22:18

I have a family occasion abroad after the New Years that I won't be going to school.

She told my DS to let me go for a fortnight so she can come and stay presumably sleeping in my bed confused

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