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Hairzilla 2

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KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 11:08

Thankyou so much for so much support over the previous threads.

I thought a lot about how to respond to F1.
I told her without a proper talk I dont think I can put it behind us.
She suggested we meet up tonight after Ive finished work so we can talk properly.
F2&3 have agreed to be there so another repeat of her flying off the handle doesnt happen.

This time around Im hoping for an explaination and an apology now shes had time to calm down.

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 21/10/2017 11:11

Ah was wondering how you were Kung!

This sounds like an excellent idea. I think having the support of f2 and 3 will help

Do they know about the 'we're both to blame' text? Just wondered what they thought

Hope it goes well Flowers

LittleLights · 21/10/2017 11:13

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Textpectation · 21/10/2017 11:20

Don't say sorry. Not even 'I'm sorry you feel that way.'

EyeRollChampion · 21/10/2017 11:21

What can I say? You're "just so bloody, bloody, bloody, bloody, bloody, bloody... NICE!" to quote Vivian. Grin

Good luck and pleeeeeease don't be railroaded into giving an apology. You've behaved admirably.

Flowers

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 21/10/2017 11:22
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ItsNachoCheese · 21/10/2017 11:22

Glad f2 and f3 will be there with you this time

Notreallyarsed · 21/10/2017 11:22

I spent a good hour reading the threads before this and I’m stunned at her cheeky fuckery and in awe of your calmness Kung.

GeekyWombat · 21/10/2017 11:24

YY to Textpectation. You have nothing to apologise for.

Good luck for tonight and I hope you get a response that allows you to move forward - everyone loves a CF thread, but in real life it's just exhausting and I'm sure you want to try and resolve this and just move forward with a peaceful life!

Apileofballyhoo · 21/10/2017 11:24

Good idea to have F2 and F3 there. I would never meet someone in my own again after being verbally attacked like that!

Sadmum23 · 21/10/2017 11:26

Great for idea - needs a proper talk. Having f2&3 present is excellent shows you are not being vindictive. Hope it goes well

SussexMedley · 21/10/2017 11:26

Good luck OP.

Lj8893 · 21/10/2017 11:26

Think you have handled all of this so well Kung. Having f2 and f3 there is a really good idea.

didnthappeninmyday · 21/10/2017 11:26

Good luck.....but even if she’s completely apologetic please please please stop giving her free haircuts or allowing her to turn up at the end of the day without an appointment.

Serialweightwatcher · 21/10/2017 11:27

I'd be very impressed if you can put it behind you - the initial giving away your services without asking was bad enough, but since then the facebook post slating you, the swearing and shouting at you ... she'd have to do a huge amount of grovelling to me and I probably still couldn't forgive. Good luck

TheMaddHugger · 21/10/2017 11:27

Good Luck wishes and fingers crossed

I hope all goes well

Hairzilla 2
HerRoyalFattyness · 21/10/2017 11:27

Another one saying do not apologise for anything. You don't need to. She does.

Fluffysparks · 21/10/2017 11:32

Good luck!!

Ginkypig · 21/10/2017 11:36

I had a completely different scenario happen with a friend but I ended up with her in the same place you are.

I.e. Our friendship can't survive until the friend takes responsibility/acknowledges for her actions and apologises.
In my case she wouldn't have ever done that and for me as much as it hurt to lose her I couldn't have carried on our friendship because I couldn't ever see her in the same way.

I felt that her behaviour and then more importantly her lack of care about me and lack of care about the effect she'd had on me meant I ended the friendship.

I had too much respect for my self to allow myself to be treated so badly by a person who was meant to be a very close friend.

So over 10 years of friendship gone

CaveMum · 21/10/2017 11:42

I hope you can resolve it and get an apology but I won't be ho,ding my breath for you OP.

WhatwouldOliviaPopedo · 21/10/2017 11:45

Don't you dare apologise for anything! Read all the threads and you've done absolutely nothing to apologise for. All the contrition needs to come from her, but be prepared to walk out with F2 and F3 in tow if she kicks off again. Good luck Flowers

HashiAsLarry · 21/10/2017 11:45

kung very nicely handled again I think, very good to have f2 and f3 on hand as well. Good luck and I hope you get a decent apology, though prepare yourself for the fact it may not come.

mojojojo838 · 21/10/2017 11:46

Good luck tonight, Kung, and I'm glad that your other friends are going to be there. You've acted far better than I would have under the circumstances, I would have destroyed her after seeing that Facebook post. I hope that she won't be a CF tonight, but... not holding my breath.

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BewareOfDragons · 21/10/2017 11:48

I'm glad you've got F2 and F3 with you.

Please don't apologize to 'keep the peace'. You haven't done anything wrong. This is entirely on F1. She needs to own it and apologize., otherwise it will happen again.

Santawontbelong · 21/10/2017 11:51

Is she meeting you at your salon? Bet she asks for a quick trim whilst you chat!!

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 21/10/2017 11:54

Im not apologising because I havent done anything wrong. Nor will I be asking for an apology off her, when you prompt someone that you want an apology it isnt sincere IYSWIM.

I suppose I just want an explaination of why she did what she did but I still dont know if the friendship can ever be the same again, Ive saw her in a different light over these past few days and I didnt like what I saw.

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