SM is a difficult person. Recently while looking for an argument she mentioned she had a lasting power of attorney against my DF in conjunction with my sibling (who I have nothing to do with due to previous acts of humungous selfish behaviour).
My DF was present. I asked afterwards when we were alone, did you agree to this? It seemed unlikely due to both potential attorneys being fundamentally selfish & not interested in the wider family. No I didn't & haven't signed anything, says DF.
It played on my mind & after looking into it, I learnt I could confidentially apply to find out if something was registered against my DF. In the meantime I see my DF again. The power of attorney is mentioned. DF says, don't worry I've spoken about it with SM & I don't know why SM said that because I've not agreed to a power of attorney & she's now accepted that. DF was 100% clear there was never & would never be a power of attorney as SM had suggested, with that arrangement of attorneys.
Today I got the results of the search of the register. There is a power of attorney against my DF name. SM and my sibling named attorneys, just as SM had previously claimed. My DF is adamant he did not agree to this or sign this (at least not knowingly, DF trusted SM implicitly so possibly signed with coersion / pressure or misled, as he is easy going & she is forceful, but as I say DF trusted her completely but had no intention of agreeing to these power of attorneys).
So basically, this is fraudulent. The donor is supposed to freely donate the power not have it donated by another without their knowledge.
Do I shop her? Do I leave it & risk my DF being bullied into ignoring the abuse of trust & the lies that followed recently when SM agreed to respect DF choice not to have the power of attorney, knowing she'd already done it? And DF being stuck with this situation? It's not what he wants but my SM has threatened before to make his life unpleasant if he doesn't keep her happy (not hearsay, I was there!) What happens if someone is found guilty of this type of fraud? She's either tricked him into signing the paperwork, or forged his signature.
My head says give DF the facts, support DF choice. My heart says shop the cow... but aibu? So confused & worried, this could be the tip of the iceberg (thinking has his will been redrafted without his knowledge now I know this has been done)
Help me get my thoughts straight please!
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JacobeanWilson · 21/10/2017 00:06
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