Am i being a miserable inconsiderate being if I don't do xmas?
I don't celebrate the religious side of Xmas and I find the retail side of it a real annoyance.
A few years ago i stopped doing cards and that felt like a weight lifted on its own! My sister and I made a pact not to buy for each other and as neither of us have kids that was easily done.
I absolutely dread the buying for others when I have no idea what to buy (all adults in the family, kids would be much easier!). Also I always ask people not to buy me anything as a. There is nothing I need, and b. It's hard enough finding space for the things I already own let alone more stuff!
Xmas day my MIL (who is a diamond!) likes everyone round hers. This isn't a problem per se but as her, her partner and her other children live there its a cheerful boozy day that my DH misses out on as he can't drink due to driving home.
I would be quite happy staying home with my dog (we can't take him to MIL) and for DH to go to his mums Xmas eve and stay over. To me it's just another day and I wouldn't get sentimental over being alone on Xmas.
I will probably buy presents anyway as I know people will still buy for me and I would feel awful not giving something back. I don't understand the appeal of Xmas. To me it seems like a religious occasion that I can't opt out of because it isn't about religion anymore.
Nice to hear non gift giving can work out pallisers.
It is a case of not being able to stay over with the dog. We did have one year a while ago where DH went alone because I was working Xmas morning and it worked out well for both of us. Nobody likes the thought of me being home alone on Xmas day, but when DH is working away I spend weeks at a time alone!