I am a single parent, I work part-time have mortgage etc.
Child's father sees his child at weekends but doesn't pay regular maintenance, recently due to unemployment but in the past no reasons.
Child has school trip which happens to include one of dads weekend visits, I send him details and ask if he is OK for child to go, if so he pays (this is our agreement)
Dad agrees that child can go, but says can't afford it, so will only pay half. - I understand he is not working so I agree to pay the balance so that child gets to go.
Problem is that the day after I commit myself financially and agree to this, I find out that dad has now got a very highly paid job in the city but didn't inform me of this fact and can now certainly afford to pay in full!!
I will really struggle to find my half of the money for this trip, should I make an issue about this or let it go??
I’d tell him you’ve heard about his job and ask for an increased contribution. You wouldn’t be being unreasonable to ask. It sounds like maybe he is a bit difficult when it comes to supporting his child financially tho? So he’s likely to refuse your request. I’m not sure there’s much you can do about that
Oh yes the call to CMS has been made, but it took 6 months to get income details last time then he never actually paid before changing jobs etc so my arrears are substantial! I live on my money and if I ever get anything from CMS /him, then (after I pick myself off the floor) I will use it as a holiday/savings money.