I've noticed that a few of my friends/colleagues have partners who call them all the fucking time.
Went out with a colleague for lunch a few weeks ago- her DH rang her, she missed the call, she rang him back immediately, spent the next ten minutes talking to him. He rang twice more during our lunch. In the end she just went outside to talk to him. He works from home and she was going to see him again in less than an hour.
My friend is the same. Her husband is constantly ringing her. And it's usually absolute nonsense - not "please pick up milk", but "where are you, who is there, are you having fun, when are you home". He's honestly done this up to a dozen times when we've been on days out, and has started facetiming her too.
Then there are the women in the group I volunteer with. Every so often we have a group meeting and their phones are constantly buzzing and they are constantly nipping outside, and it's always their husbands, who apparently have been left at home on their own and can't seem to cope. All their children are secondary age so we aren't talking about leaving a baby to be EBF for the first time.
Once I went to training with one of them and her DH was just blowing up her phone "is there pizza in the fridge" type of thing. He also expected a blow by blow account of her travels - where are you now, are you on the motorway yet etc. She couldn't get over that I wasn't phoning my DH "to tell him where I was". I said I'd already told him that morning, and he knew I'd be back at X time.
I love my DH very much, and he is my favourite person to spend time with, but I just don't get this constant phoning. We may occasionally text each other if a school pick up plan has changed or we need loo roll, but we are adults and we don't need to be answerable to each other continually when we are apart.
I actually find it stressful at times, being around my friends whose partners do this - I can't have a conversation with them because it's constantly interrupted, I'm staying later at group meetings because we have to start all over again because someone has to nip out and explain to her DH for the sixth time that Jessica's gym tshirt is red not blue - it's no fun.
Aibu to find it deeply irritating? Honestly if DH was like this with me I'd feel claustrophobic.
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LostInTheTunnelOfGoats · 19/10/2017 19:26
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