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AIBU not to go on holiday with a broken leg?

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TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:41:03

ExH is trying to pressurise me into going on a short trip into mainland Europe by car (he will be driving) over the half term. He would like to spend time with the children and they will not be going on holiday with him if I am not coming.

On such occasions I would usually go with the children in our own car and stay in a separate hotel (usually in an apartment a few miles down the road from him), but with a broken leg in a cast I can’t drive. He has offered to drive us all, but I am not comfortable with this and tbh in the past I have always been grateful to have my own transport in case he is misbehaving.

ExH is of course calling me all sorts of things and apparently half the world is going on holiday with broken legs etc and I should just get on with it and not make so much fuss. The consequences of not going will be endless hostilities, but I really can’t face it. AIBU to decline?

confusedlittleone Thu 19-Oct-17 14:43:56

Why can't the kids go without you?

teaandtoast Thu 19-Oct-17 14:44:54

YANBU. Awful idea as far as I'm concerned.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:45:12

They are not comfortable on their own with him. He’s not very good it’s them and speaks to them as though they were adults.

DancesWithOtters Thu 19-Oct-17 14:45:41

Can't he pay for flights if it's him wanting to go?

How old are the kids?

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:45:49

*with them - sorry

OuchBollocks Thu 19-Oct-17 14:46:25

I found sitting in a car for any length of time very uncomfortable when my leg was in a cast so YANBU to not go.

QuestionableMouse Thu 19-Oct-17 14:46:41

I can't imagine that you'd be very comfortable stuck in a car for several hours (or more).

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:46:45

They’re teenagers.

No - he doesn’t like flying if it can be helped.

AndrewJames Thu 19-Oct-17 14:47:46

I can't imagine why you would be going even without a broken leg. What are you thinking?

DancesWithOtters Thu 19-Oct-17 14:47:52

How long is the car journey?

Tell him it's up to the kids to decide, if they're teenagers, but you will not be travelling in the car. If they want you to come then he'll have to pay for your flights.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:48:29

Also, in case of a breakdown or any emergency, I am not very fast on crutches.

Caulk Thu 19-Oct-17 14:49:17

Depends where they break is. I assume you were planning to go pre break?

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:49:33

All in all the journey will be the best part of the day, including channel crossing, ca. 6 hours or so.

DancesWithOtters Thu 19-Oct-17 14:49:44

Is it Spain/Italy?

Fuck being in a car that long.

Do the kids even want to go?

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:51:03

No, it has only occurred to him last week that he would like a few days off with the kids. It was not planned at all. Nor paid for.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:51:52

The kids would go, but not on their own with him. He’s guilt tripping me into coming.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:53:08

I need more reasons not to come to back me up. confused

OuchBollocks Thu 19-Oct-17 14:53:14

If he was my aunt's ex I would say what an amazing coincidence that he now wants to do something that would clearly be hugely uncomfortable for you, almost as though he's deliberately set you up to be the bad guy hmm

Ellendegeneres Thu 19-Oct-17 14:53:21

Say no.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:54:51

Ouch that about sums it up. E could always do a long weekend once the cast is off and I’ll be driving again, it’s just a few more weeks.

user1471451564 Thu 19-Oct-17 14:54:56

Would you even be able to get holiday insurance?

OuchBollocks Thu 19-Oct-17 14:55:06

Your orthopaedic doctor has said you can't go. Too much risk of a DVT sitting down in cramped conditions for hours on end.

TheNewKaren Thu 19-Oct-17 14:56:17

Yes - I’m completely U apparently and apparently everybody else goes on holiday with broken bones - what fun.

OuchBollocks Thu 19-Oct-17 14:57:10

In all seriousness you would be at risk of a DVT and there's an excellent chance an insurer won't cover you.

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