I am 29 years old. I am educated to postgraduate level. I earn four times his salary working half the hours which is why I feel so guilty about this argument we had over wifework.
I pay the bills because he has his own place but spends 90% of his time at mine.
I plan and cook the meals. And then wash up afterwards.
I do and pay for the food shop.
I do the laundry.
I clean (rarely tbh).
I feel like such a bitch but yesterday I exploded at him.
He said I should ask if I needed help.
I was furious it would be described as help.
I feel guilty as fuck because I earn more for much less hours but I just dont like this dynamic.
Its been going on for a year now.
None of the DIY stuff around the house has been done.
He has experienced some traumatic stuff this past year.
He also works really long hours.
So I feel guilty but....
At the same time I am not a fucking mother substitute.
I dont think this is fair and now I feel angry that I feel guilty.
Im confused.
I was an independent, well educated and intelligent woman.
Now I just feel like a nagging wifeworker.
I never thought I would be like this.
Im angry at what I perceive as him having turned me into this when I know I need to take responsibility.
He's a gentle and kind man otherwise.
But he essentially has to worry about nothing other than his work.
I need guidance and reassurance.
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homhumherewego · 19/10/2017 12:31
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