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Would you think this is cheeky?

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SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 13:19

Is it cheeky to make money selling things that someone has given you for free?

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Justmuddlingalong · 18/10/2017 13:20

Yes.

ownedbySWD · 18/10/2017 13:21

Probably. I was given a mountain of baby clothes that ds outgrew in a hot second. I needed to buy him the next size up, so sold them at an NCT sale and used the money to buy him more clothes. I was honest with them but I don't think it went down well. I probably wouldn't do it again.

Someoneasdumbasthis · 18/10/2017 13:22

absolutely. pay it forward.

Cakescakescakes · 18/10/2017 13:22

Yes absolutely. They should be passed on for free to someone else.

MunchMunch · 18/10/2017 13:22

Depends.

I was given bunk beds for free off freecycle, I sold the bunks after about a year but I bought new single beds with the money as dc were getting their own rooms. That's ok to me.

If you were given the stuff for free and you put it across that they would be used by you but you only had the intention to sell it from the start then that's not ok imo.

SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 13:23

That's what I though. A friend I've recently fallen out with is selling all the clothes I passed on to her for her baby for free. I'm really annoyed.

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egosemperfemina · 18/10/2017 13:25

Well I have passed on nearly all of our baby stuff to a friend as we aren't having any more DC. She is really struggling financially as a pregnant single mother, I would have absolutely no problem with her selling the things I've given her if she needs the money, and I have told her this. But in other circumstances yes I think you should give away for free anything you yourself got for nothing.

MunchMunch · 18/10/2017 13:25

Has her baby worn the clothes and outgrown them?

People on MN usually say that you can't attach conditions on things you give away so maybe she thinks like this.

SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 13:26

I just think it's so cheeky! I was also a skint single mum and could've sold it all myself but thought I'd do a nice thing. Oh well, I guess it's just good we're not friends anymore.

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SloeSloeQuickQuickGin · 18/10/2017 13:27

I suppose it depends how much she needs the money.

Ignoring the fact you have fallen out, would you prefer it if she paid her electric bill or starved in order to do so?

SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 13:28

She doesn't need the money.

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SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 13:29

If she had asked I would've said yes, but it's just the fact that she just thinks that's just an ok thing to do!

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Raver84 · 18/10/2017 13:40

With baby stuff tag been given when I finish with it I always contact t my friend and ask of she wants it back. She never does. So I give it to charity or give away in bundles on Facebook. Wouldn't sell.

Greyponcho · 18/10/2017 13:42

Ask for them back - she clearly doesn’t need them anymore and you can find someone who does appreciate them

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 18/10/2017 13:49

Yeah I wouldn't appreciate that.
It's a bit bloody rude, really.

KoalaD · 18/10/2017 13:50

Yes, I think it's rude.

ReanimatedSGB · 18/10/2017 13:52

Meh. Don't give things to other people if you are that precious - or at least make it clear that you want the things back.

It's only wrong if you lied about needing the items when you were intending to sell them at a profit all along.

ArcheryAnnie · 18/10/2017 13:54

I was given bunk beds for free off freecycle, I sold the bunks after about a year but I bought new single beds with the money

MunchMunch since you benefited from Freecycle, why didn't you pass the benefit on, instead of making a profit? That's really not in the spirit of Freecycle.

Wixi · 18/10/2017 13:58

Yes, I think it is very cheeky. I saved my baby stuff (cot, pushchair, pram, rocking chair, etc) and gave them to my younger sister when she was pregnant with her first. My sister sent me a bunch of flowers as thanks. When she no longer needed them she sold the stuff and didn't offer me anything more - I'm furious! She is now pregnant again so will have to replace, but at her own cost!

Fuckoffee · 18/10/2017 14:03

I don't mind people selling things on that I have given them for free. I've passed on loads of baby stuff. Ive tried selling bits in the past but it's a lot of hassle for not much gain. If the next person has the time, energy and need to sell them then Im happy for them to go for it.
Would you feel differently if you hadn't fallen out with her?

SuzukiLi · 18/10/2017 14:04

Would you feel differently if you hadn't fallen out with her?

Not at all!

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Ohyesiam · 18/10/2017 14:05

It is a bit tight, but once you have given them, they don't belong to you any more.

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SandyDenny · 18/10/2017 14:06

MunchMunch hasn't profited though, she had no money and got some free beds, she still has no money and some beds they just aren't the same beds. She didn't say she had any money left over.

Anyway there have been eleventy billion of these threads and opinions are always split, there's no right answer imo

bimbobaggins · 18/10/2017 14:06

It is a bit rude but as said earlier once you have given it away you can’t really expect to dictate what happens to it.
It wouldn’t bother me.

theftbyfinding · 18/10/2017 14:08

Time and again I read this threads about baby clothes. I think people are investing precious memories of their dc in the clothes and should probably charity shop them rather than pass on to friends because there is rarely a happy outcome when the recipient no longer needs them and disposes of them in any form.

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